Don't Mom Alone Podcast5 Mar 2018

The Right to Change My Mind Bruce Heather Ep 196

Life is full of decisions. We do our best to choose wisely and follow God’s lead. Sometimes God leads us in a different direction. It doesn’t always make “sense” in the moment. And it definitely isn’t easy to share those changes with others.

It’s been over a year since we’ve given you a glimpse behind the scenes. In that time A LOT has happened in our world: new job, school shifts, adopting & “re-homing” a puppy. So I’m bringing my hubby Bruce back on the show to share one concept he’s used at work for years and he has helped me process the last year of change.

In this episode Bruce and I let you in on the thought process behind our life choices. Hoping this conversation will allow you grace to change your mind without the fear of what others think.

I reserve the right to change my mind and not have to explain it to you, but every person who hears about it wants to know the whole story. What I’ve found is people want to know the should. Every time I talk to a mom, they are feeling this pressure to get it all right, so then when they hear a story that doesn’t work out or where you changed your mind they are trying to analyze the rightness of it.

What we chat about:

What’s happened in the MacFadyen family in the past year
Bruce’s current business, Door Real Estate Brokerage
The mantra, “I always reserve the right to change my mind”
Making the decision to send one of our sons back to school after a semester of homeschooling
What happened with our dog
Giving yourself freedom to change your mind
Being gracious to others who change their minds
Why we need to give our kids and ourselves permission to make mistakes
Working to create an environment at home where it’s okay to change your mind and make mistakes
In all of the decisions in life it’s about balance and listening to God’s voice

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