3. Myth: You have to love yourself before you let anyone else love you
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3. Myth: You have to love yourself before you let anyone else love you

In this episode I talk about the quote, "You have to love yourself before you let anyone else love you" and why it shouldn't be said. This denies the reality of traumatic childhoods, experiences and the struggle of waking up everyday loving ourselves. We are worthy of love despite how we feel about ourselves.

Book: The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel Van Der Kolk

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11. Do you often try to guess or assume the emotions and feelings of others to keep yourself safe?

11. Do you often try to guess or assume the emotions and feelings of others to keep yourself safe?

I've always found myself guessing and assuming the emotions and feelings of others to keep myself safe. Growing up in a household where one parent always had unstable emotions and often blamed me for ...

28 Des 202014min

10. Your suicidal thoughts are valid

10. Your suicidal thoughts are valid

In this episode, I talk about suicidal ideation and your thoughts being valid. I don't talk too much about my own experience but more so just my thoughts about having them and how I think it should be...

12 Nov 202010min

9. Fear of abandonment: the fear of being left alone

9. Fear of abandonment: the fear of being left alone

In this episode, I talk about why we fear abandonment and ways in which it shows up in our lives. I do focus on romantic relationships, as it relates back to my life, but you can have this fear in any...

28 Okt 202010min

8. What codependency is and what it's like to be codependent

8. What codependency is and what it's like to be codependent

In this episode, I get into what codependency is and what it's like being codependent. For me, it's like getting into a relationship and throwing away all of my wants and needs without considering if ...

20 Okt 20209min

7. Do you feel safe and secure when you worry and are in control?

7. Do you feel safe and secure when you worry and are in control?

In this episode, I get into how worry and controlling behaviors give you a false sense of security and safety. It's common for trauma survivors to continue to create chaos or create the same outcome o...

13 Okt 202014min

6. Blame your parents or transgenerational trauma but don't blame yourself

6. Blame your parents or transgenerational trauma but don't blame yourself

In this episode, I talk about the whether we should "blame" transgenerational trauma or our parents. I say, as long as you don't blame yourself and you do whatever helps you heal your inner child woun...

29 Sep 202017min

5. The roles of a narcissistic family

5. The roles of a narcissistic family

In this episode, I briefly talk about the roles that are in a narcissistic family and how getting out of that family might be what saves you. I know that leaving family isn't always easy and isn't acc...

22 Sep 202011min

4. Your experience doesn't need to be validated by others to be real

4. Your experience doesn't need to be validated by others to be real

In this episode, I talk about invalidating comments, how invalidation can cause more suffering and releasing the need for invalidation. I also threw in a few validating comments that maybe we could st...

16 Sep 202022min

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