ManTalks Podcast22 Aug 2024

How I Went From Avoidant To Secure (You Can Too)

Talking points: attachment, avoidance, mindset, psychology

If you, your partner, or someone you’re friends with has an avoidant attachment style, this one’s specifically for you!

These are the steps I took and the ones I recommend to clients who are just starting out and want to get their avoidance under control. They’re simple, but not easy. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - The two things changing from avoidant to secure depends on, and why

(00:05:58) - Build self-awareness around these two crucial things

(00:08:49) - Initiate reconnection when disconnection has happened

(00:12:30) - Express what you’re experiencing

(00:14:02) - Expose your needs—with two caveats

(00:16:12) - Move from self-protection to relational reliance

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