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Heartset work [introduced in The 5AM Club] allows you to dissolve the repressed regret, disappointment, shame, anger and sorrow that we all experience as we advance through life. Working on a better mindset for 2023 while neglecting your Heartset sets up a situation of self-sabotage where your intellect knows what you should do yet your emotional world keeps you limited. If you’re seeking some strong inspiration to grow your business and self—along with some novel tools to win—go ahead...

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The discomfort of growth is always less than the heartbreak of regret. The highest impact leaders all have one trait in common: they are extreme contrarians. They were seen by the majority as radicals, misfits and eccentrics. They saw what most see and thought what few think. They rejected the mass hypnosis and schooled brainwashing of society. That says that geniuses are cut from a different cloth, that your ethical ambitions should be suppressed and that your life needs to be reasonable.&n...

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The best influencers (and elite athletes, artists and inventors) are boring. They are all about Mundanity: repeating the same few habits every single day (whether they feel like performing them or not) until these consistent practices incrementally morph into a tsunami of victory. Success lies in a masterful consistency around the fundamentals (please read that thrice). Don’t complicate things. Just repeat a few routines staggeringly well. I recall learning from the excellent documentary T...

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You may find it odd that a teacher of Leadership and Elite-Performance in business is writing of self-love. Yet it’s only once you love yourself that you can love your visions and love your craft and give your heart to the development of your team and operate in full-on service to your clients—and in the hot chase of a better world. People who hate themselves pour hate into the world. Those who honor themselves uplift it. All fortune begins within—with you loving who you are...

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When I think of leadership Nelson Mandela tops my list. His grace, his courage, his forgiveness, his kindness. No matter how busy he was as president of South Africa, he always had time to shake the hand of a cleaner, offer a word of encouragement to a server and share a laugh with a child. The true measure of a person is how they treat those who can do nothing for them. As I think about it though I believe the real secret of his magic was that he was an absolute master of ...

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Legendary producers are professional resters. They outfocus, outinvent and outwork everyone around them when it’s game time. And then, after they’ve expressed their mastery in a hot burst of flaming audacity, they go dark. Ghost. Silent. And recover. And read. And exercise. And daydream. And regenerate. This seasonal or cyclical way of running a day and then a week and then a month and then your years is unpopular. And counterintuitive, given the way we’ve been socially programmed to think ab...

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To the wise few [in a world that celebrates selfies, viral video games and dancing cats with party hats on YouTube], knowledge is the currency of legendary. Education is inoculation against disruption. And victory belongs to those who love learning. Because as you know more, you can achieve more. And where most only see volatility [economically, politically, societally], you will have trained—and bulletproofed—your brain to spot purely opportunity. Messy times are ahead. For those who are u...

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The better the daily decisions the more superior your daily results. The fine art of brilliant choice-making isn’t spoken of nor deconstructed so often yet it’s a skill absolutely worth mastering. One excellent habit of high-impact humans is that they don’t make excuses and tell untrue stories about why they can’t do their dreams and make a difference and realize their talents. Instead, they use each day as a platform to make micro-wins toward their ethical ambitions that over time le...

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