When He Can’t Answer Her Question ‘Why Did You Do This?’

When He Can’t Answer Her Question ‘Why Did You Do This?’

When there has been betrayal due to a pornography addiction, a woman will often ask her husband why he did, how he could have hurt her like that, why didn’t he consider her or the family, etc.

There’s one main reason why oftentimes these discussions lead to frustration, defensiveness, and disconnection, and without addressing it the conversations will continue to go nowhere and leave you feeling hopeless and loss.

In this episode I discuss how to navigate that conversation in a way that brings closure and understanding so that you can move forward feeling better about the situation and confident that things can be different.

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