140: When Shame and "Self Pity" Dissolves Connection and Breaks Down the Conversation
Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction11 Apr 2024

140: When Shame and "Self Pity" Dissolves Connection and Breaks Down the Conversation

How do the conversations go when you talk about her pain?

Do they end with you feeling closer or further apart? Do you feel hopeless and inadequate, not knowing what to say to help her feel comforted?

For a wife, not getting the understanding and validation she needs creates hurt and anger, and the conversations just stall out leaving them both alone.

In this episode I share with you one of the main reasons why that happens and 2 things you can implement to change that dynamic.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.

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Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

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Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn....

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Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn....

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Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn....

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Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn....

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208: "If He Relapses Again, I'm Done." (How to Protect Your Marriage the Right Way)

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn....

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207: The One Conversation That Rebuilds Security After Betrayal After Pornography Use

207: The One Conversation That Rebuilds Security After Betrayal After Pornography Use

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn....

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206: How To Stop Self-Sabotage So You Can Quit Pornography and Repair Your Relationship

206: How To Stop Self-Sabotage So You Can Quit Pornography and Repair Your Relationship

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn....

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205: Can She Really Know If He’s Not Struggling With Porn Anymore? Look For This.

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn....

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