Does It Count As Cheating If He's Getting Nudes From Someone He Never Met?

J and J kick off the show with a conversation about sliding into someone’s DMs after you miss the chance to connect on a dating app. What’s the right way to start a conversation via DM? At 26:25 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a guy who played dead the moment after he finished during sex. At 38:45 a listener writes in to ask if it’s safe to have a threesome with her long-term boyfriend. Is there any way to bring in a third person without somebody getting jealous? At 55:00 another emailer asks if she comes off as desperate when she initiates the first date with guys she has matched. Is it important to make guys chase you or is it better to just take charge? At 1:02:45 they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and ask how you should deal with an insincere complimenter. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Aug 20191h 11min

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at The Vic Theatre in Chicago. At 9:25 they ask the question “how do I handle the guy who wants to take things slow?” At 16:00 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for 2 audience members. At 51:10 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker” with special guest, Diggy Moreland. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

16 Aug 20191h 31min

J and J start the show with a preview of tonight’s live show from Chicago. At 9:10 they discuss an argument that was set off by a dangerous hypothetical question. At 25:20 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a lost condom and a ruined set of sheets. Should you come clean when the condom gets lost in the most embarrassing place possible? At 35:15 a listener writes in to ask if it’s normal that her boyfriend has paid strangers for nudes on Snapchat. Does it count as cheating if he’s getting pictures from amateur porn stars? At 50:20 another emailer asks if she should be alarmed that her fiancé asked if the deposits for their wedding are refundable. Does this mean he’s having second thoughts about marriage or just asking an honest question? At 1:14:20 they rank the best and worst months of the year to be single, then close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. U Up? LIVE is coming to the New York Comedy Festival on Friday, November 8th! Get your tickets by visiting betches.co/nycf Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 Aug 20191h 24min

Would You Rather Be The Dumper Or The Dumpee? J and J start the show with an announcement about U Up? LIVE coming to the New York Comedy Festival at Town Hall. At 5:45 a listener writes in to ask if women are better off ‘dating down.’ At 22:45 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a roll in the grass, a new sex toy, and a surprise they didn’t see coming. At 29:25 another listener writes in to ask why her boyfriend is still following a girl he hooked up with when they were on a break. At 47:25 an emailer asks if it’s okay to be upset that the guy she just started seeing didn’t invite her out to join him on a Friday night. Then at 1:03:10 they play a game of Would You Rather all about whether you’d prefer to be the dumper or the dumpee. They close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. U Up? LIVE is coming to the New York Comedy Festival on Friday, November 8th at 9:45pm! Get your tickets before they go on sale to the public by visiting betches.co/nycf and using the promo code CNYCF Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

7 Aug 20191h 16min

J and J start the show with a conversation about money in relationships. At 18:55 a listener asks if it’s fair to expect her boyfriend to cover the majority of the expenses on vacation because he makes more than her. Who should pay for the couples vacation? They also debate who should have to sit in the middle seat on a flight. At 36:50 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a rushed hook up and bad aim. At 43:30 another listener writes in to ask if the ex-boyfriend she was hooking up with just ghosted her. At what point should you admit that you’re keeping someone around because you’re comfortable together? At 54:45 an emailer asks if her love for her sick dog will an obstacle for finding a relationship. Then at 1:11:30 they are joined by the Season 16 winner of American Idol, Maddie Poppe. Jared tells the story of how they first met and Maddie talks about dating someone she met on the show. Does it put pressure on a couple if your relationship is public? They close out the show with a Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring Maddie’s take on expressing your love via Instagram. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

31 Jul 20191h 35min

J and J start the show with an explanation of why men love The Rock and women are obsessed with Beyoncé. At 17:45 a listener writes in to ask why people choose to unmatch on dating apps. Also, how late is too late to cancel a date? At 35:40 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a messy apartment and an air mattress. Is a messy apartment past a certain age a deal breaker? At 49:00 another listener asks if it’s okay to be mad at her boyfriend for sitting on another girl’s lap. Is a grown man sitting on someone’s lap too weird to ignore? At 56:50 an emailer asks if it’s acceptable to tell her boyfriend what to wear to a formal wedding they’re attending. They finish the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker all about being comfortable. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

24 Jul 20191h 11min

The J’s kick off the show with a conversation about Jared’s trip to Napa and how hard it is to fulfill your partner’s expectations. Is everyone just comparing their own relationship to the people around them? At 18:50 a listener writes in to ask what your drink order says about you. If someone cares about what you drink, should you second guess dating them? At 28:42 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a towel and a weird habit in the middle of the night. At 43:40 another listener asks if for advice after messing up his vacation plans with his girlfriend. Is she the one being unreasonable, or should he have planned ahead? At 1:00:20 they give some advice to an emailer who’s in a relationship with someone that never wants to sleep over. Is she putting too much pressure on him to live up to the standard of her former relationship? They finish the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a very weird Would You Rather. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

17 Jul 20191h 10min

J and J start the show with a debate about what counts as the first date when calculating your anniversary. Should you start counting from your very first date even if you kept seeing other people early on? At 14:20 they respond to an email about what to do when somebody constantly threatens to break up with you. Is this purely manipulation or just their way of slowly getting out of the relationship? At 25:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a nightmare scenario with a tampon and a trip to urgent care. At 40:40 a listener writes in to ask if she should leave her boyfriend for withholding an important piece of information about his past. At 58:20 an emailer thinks her boyfriend might be gay. Is it ever okay to ask a guy about his sexuality? They finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Jul 20191h 12min