Can I Turn My Friend-To-Lover Back Into A Friend?

We love a special guest for our Sunday Special and, this week, comedian Vir Das takes a break from his international tour to join J&J in the studio. He walks J&J through his background from India to Nigeria to the US, and how he ended up in comedy. Then, Vir shares the relationship obstacles he overcame, why meeting his wife pre-fame was a key to their bond, and his thoughts on arranged marriages. @virdas Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

26 Nov 202340min

It’s Thanksgiving Eve and your favorite dating hosts are reminding you to beware of that holiday hookup text. In this week’s episode, J&J are ready for the holidays to hit full swing. They kick off with a flashback to high school days. The first emailer asks if he’s a f*ckboy, causing Jared to do some self-reflection. Then, the Awkward Encounter goes from a funny story to an off-the-rails comment that leaves Jordana choked up. Next, an emailer needs to know if she’s got a real shot with her best friend ahead of their return home for Thanksgiving. The episode ends with a hygiene edition of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” in partnership with Therabreath. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

22 Nov 20231h 21min

J&J are back with a Sunday Special, and they’re bringing back a beloved segment! In SOS episodes, rather than reading an email, a listener joins the pod to talk out their issue. This Sunday, Rianna joins J&J to explain how hard dating has been since she returned to the apps for the first time since college. Is it because she’s gained weight? Is it her new city? J&J help her identify non-issues, address a bigger problem they’re foreseeing, and give a homework assignment to get over her dating slump. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

19 Nov 202330min

It’s time for another episode, and with Thanksgiving only a week away, J&J are getting some holiday asks out of the way early. The first emailer wonders if she and her BF are really on the same page about their future, or if his jokes are meant for more than a laugh. Next, J&J take on a mini-lightning round about how to prepare for your first Thanksgiving with your SO or handle the tough questions from your family post-breakup. Then, the second emailer doesn’t want to spend Thanksgiving with her BF’s family, but he feels a type of way about that. Jared and Jordana debate who is in the right before the episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about body odor, eating etiquette, and bad breath. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

15 Nov 20231h 26min

It’s time for our anniversary Sunday Special, and this year is extra special because it marks 500 episodes of the U Up? Podcast! J&J are back in the studio celebrating the latest milestone and reflecting on the last 6 years of solving dating on this podcast. They reflect on how they got here, the best and worst guests, and their most personal episodes. Plus, they play back “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” segments from years past and guess where they stood. The episode ends with J&J sharing what they want for the pod's future. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12 Nov 202357min

J&J are ready to solve dating again, but first, Jared has a bone to pick with Jorge. Next, a listener is doing just fine in her relationship but wonders what experiences are needed to get her to an engagement. Jordana shares how she and her husband made it past that point, and what hesitations she sensed from the email. The Awkward Encounter is more unhinged than hazardous. Then, another listener is unsure if she should compromise plans with her besties for an important night to her boyfriend. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about bringing up an ex at awkward moments, a SO’s closeness with their ex, and lacking a taste for adventure. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

8 Nov 20231h 33min

It’s time for another Sunday Special, but we’re switching it up with a special game. J&J are joined by U Up producer, Jorge Morales Picó, to find out if men think differently when they’re in a committed relationship versus holding single status. Jared and Jorge face off for a series of questions as Jordana puts them to the test. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

5 Nov 202355min

It's Halloween, so Jordana came ready to get messy while Jared showed up buzzed–but not in the way you’d think! First, J&J kick off with a pop quiz on spooky season dating terms. Then, a listener asks how he can get his long-distance girlfriend to communicate more. J&J discuss what this could mean for his relationship. The Awkward Encounter involves coworkers too close for comfort and reminds Jared of an awkward encounter of his own. Next, a newly single listener wonders how and when she should address her baggage. Her last relationship ended with infidelity and a divorce, but does every date need to know? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about food gifts, calling someone “hot,” and using group pics on the apps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1 Nov 20231h 21min