S14 Ep. 4: Gym for Your Genitals, a 50-Year-Old Virgin, and How Viagra Solved a Problem Most Women Didn’t See as One
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) My husband has recently discovered Viagra and now takes it every time we have sex. Rather than save our sex life, it’s destroyed it. His penis is now too hard, he takes ages to orgasm, and his focus is almost exclusively on intercourse. Before Viagra, we had lots of foreplay and oral sex. I’ve told him I don’t like it, but he still takes it.2) Should men also do pelvic floor exercises? Do they enhance sex for us as well as for women? If so, how do we do them? I gather there are quite a range of muscles down there which do subtly different things.3) I'm a man in my late fifties and while I've had various friendships with women, none have resulted in anything romantic or sexual. What do I say if I did meet someone and the subject of past relationships were to come up? The lack of experience with sex and love is embarrassing. Also, what if I never meet someone? This greatly concerns me. To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
3 Sep 202527min
S14 Ep. 3: AI Girlfriends, Why Are We Shy Out of Bed, and Open Relationships?
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I’m a 26-year-old straight guy and I’m having no luck with women. I’m curious to know what you think of AI girlfriends. I’m tempted to try one until I meet someone in real life that I really like. Is it a good way to practice relationship skills? Is there anything I should know before I sign up?2) I’ve met someone and we have AMAZING sexual chemistry. But when we’re not having sex, conversation is difficult, and I ask all the questions. We have mutual friends and things in common, so it should be easy. I told him I feel nervous around him, and he says he feels the same. We haven’t been on a date yet, but he’s planning one and I’m scared it will be awkward. We’re both usually loud, chatty people so it’s a bit of a shock that we can’t be like that out of bed.3) Can you talk about the different types of relationship models there are, including open relationships?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
27 Aug 202528min
S14 Ep. 2: Hot-Husbanding, the Silent Sex Saboteur, and Why Doesn't De Do The 'New Thing' I Like?
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I followed your advice and asked my partner for something I'd like him to do in bed. He did it, and all was good. But now he doesn’t do it anymore and I’m tired of asking nicely and dropping hints. What now?2) You’ve talked about ‘hot-wifing,’ but what about ‘hot husbanding'? Do women get turned on watching their husbands with another woman in the same way men get off on watching their wives with another man? I suppose it’s every man’s fantasy for their wife to want that in a way. Cheating with permission! I’m curious if it’s a thing.3) My wife and I are in our mid 60s, still in love, and having sex. But intercourse is increasingly painful for her. She’s seen a very sympathetic female GP and tried HRT and other things, but nothing has worked. Any suggestions on what might be the issue and how to continue having sex? Toys don’t do it for her, and she’s gone off giving and receiving oral sex.To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
20 Aug 202522min
S14 Ep. 1: The CAT Technique, Weight Loss Jabs and Libido, and Glass Dildos
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I’ve listened to enough of your podcasts to know that women don’t often orgasm through intercourse alone. But, is there anything a man can do to make that more possible, apart from holding a vibrator on her clitoris while he is inside her? My penis is starting to get a complex!2) I’ve recently lost a lot of weight through the weight loss jab. I’m thrilled with the results—except for the effect on my sex life. My husband and I stopped having sex years ago because I felt too fat. I don’t think he found me sexually attractive at that weight, anyway. He’s thrilled that I’m back to the same weight I was when we met and clearly expects us to resume having sex. The thing is, I don’t want to. I never did enjoy sex much, but I have zero interest now. Not sure if that’s a side effect of the drug? I look sexier, but don’t feel it. What do I do?3) How safe are glass dildos? I’m tempted to buy one but worry they’ll break inside me. Are they okay for anal play (assuming they have a flared base)? I’m a man and we are not famous for being gentle, especially when we are playing solo.To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
13 Aug 202528min
S13 Ep. 10: How to Take the Lead in Bed, a Neighborly Fling, and How Do I Stop My Parents' Open Marriage from Affecting My Relationship?
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I’m 28 and been with my partner for four years. He’s always been the one to initiate sex and I thought he liked it that way. But, now he’s told me he’s sick of it and wants me to take the lead—not just with initiating, but during sex as well. I have no idea how to do this. Can you help?2) I had a bit of a thing with my neighbor. We’re both single, but have teenage children and didn’t want them to know anything was going on. Two months in, we got busted by my daughter and now it’s in the open. The kids are delighted—but I’m not interested anymore. I liked the excitement of sneaking around and having hot sex. I never did want a relationship, but now feel like it’s expected. What do I do?3) I grew up with parents who had an open relationship and were very open about sex. I’m now 24 and want to settle down with my girlfriend, but she doesn’t trust me because of my parents’ attitude toward sex. They’ve made it plain they think I’m too young to marry and should be having fun. How do I convince her I’m not like them and want to live a normal, stable married life?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
11 Jun 202525min
S13 Ep. 9: His Needs Come First, Post-Menopause Male Loneliness, and How Important is Smell?
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I’m a woman who has no problem having an orgasm on her own, but it happens rarely with my partner. I’ve told him how I want to be stimulated, but sex always feels like something that’s done to satisfy his needs and mine are an afterthought. He knows I don’t orgasm through intercourse, but still asks me every single time if I have. When I say no, he begrudgingly gives me oral sex or uses his fingers, but it’s half-hearted because he’s had his orgasm. I’m feeling increasingly resentful. How do I tackle this?2) My wife and I are in our late 60s, fit and healthy, and have been happily married for 40 years. Sex has always been a small part of our marriage, but it was adventurous and good. Since menopause, which she seemed to sail through, both sex and intimacy have disappeared. We talk about it now and then, but nothing happens. I don't necessarily want penetrative sex, I just miss holding her and showing her I love her rather than just saying it. I feel lonely.3) I'm a straight woman in my 30s and recently met an amazing guy. I ended it because of his smell. He doesn’t smell bad, just like he has a different chemistry to me. My gut said not to go there. Am I right to pay attention to this? Is it something that you can work with or get past, and how?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
4 Jun 202521min
S13 Ep. 8: No Strings Sex, Secret Turn Ons, and Suspiciously Raised Libidos
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I’m a 25-year-old straight woman and am not interested in a relationship right now. But, I do want sex. How and when do I bring this up with people I date—and do I have to?2) My boyfriend of four years is suddenly doing new things in bed which is making me suspicious. I’ve always been the higher libido one; now he’s the one initiating sex and wanting to try new things. I feel like maybe he’s attracted to someone else and this is what’s firing him up. I don’t want to ask because I don’t want to know, but it’s making me uneasy. What should I do?3) My wife and I went to a remote beach in Greece while on holiday last year. It was just us on the beach, but then another couple turned up, stripped off and, in full sight of us, had sex. We both pretended not to look, but obviously did. That night we had the most amazing sex. But whenever I try to talk about it with my wife, she blocks discussion and called me a pervert for bringing it up. I felt the whole experience unlocked a moment of sexual magic. Should I drop it, or try to talk about it again in the hope of having better sex? To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
28 Mai 202520min
S13 Ep. 7: Porn, Desire Dilemmas, and My Wife Has Left Me for Another Woman
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) How do I make myself desire sex more? I’ve tried everything to turn myself on but nothing seems to work. I have never had a high sex drive and probably never will. But I would like to get to the point where sex is remotely appealing. Do you have any advice I won’t have already heard?2) I know my husband watches porn—we’ve always had a laugh about it. But I was surprised to see the kind of porn he watches. I couldn’t resist checking his history—I did it on a whim—and now wish I hadn’t. There was some weird stuff on there. Is this something to worry about? I figured he just watched "normal" porn.3) My wife of 23 years has just left me—for another woman. She’s been straight the whole of her life and we have two children. I am obviously upset, but not sure how seriously to take this. My male friends tell me to hang in there and that she will come back. She says she’s not lesbian but fell in love with a person. Is it more likely she will change her mind because it’s a woman not a man and this is not her usual thing? It’s been six months now.To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
21 Mai 202522min
