913: Trust Betrayed by Wife Who Strayed (2,300 Times) | Feedback Friday
2,300 messages discovered on your wife's old phone reveal her prolific infidelity that spanned years of your 24-year marriage. Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: 2,300 messages discovered on your wife's old phone reveal a pattern of prolific infidelity that spanned approximately 16 percent of your 24-year marriage. Does she deserve the second chance she's begging for? As the least successful of two sisters, you know your mother already worries chronically about you. And since your brother-in-law died by suicide last year, you're hesitant to share that you also suffer from depression — but you don't want to keep her in the dark, either. What's the right way to handle this dilemma? Described as "irreplaceable" by your employers, your workload equals or surpasses that of longer-tenured coworkers who make twice as much as you. How can you renegotiate your salary without coming off as entitled and greedy? [Thanks to The Connector’s Advantage author Michelle Tillis Lederman for her help with this one!] Your dad lives remotely with a partner who's generally abusive toward him, with health problems that make it difficult for her to be left alone for long periods of time. This means she either comes with him when he visits (complaining the whole time and making everyone miserable), or she stays home and texts or calls incessantly to berate him the whole time. How can you help him work up the nerve to end this obviously unhappy relationship? How do you get over the anger and confusion brought on by the ex who ghosted you with zero explanation after a year-long relationship — especially when his thirst-trap photos keep showing up in your dating app? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/913 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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912: Matthew Dunn | Iranian Hit Squads in the UK and US
Why are Iranian hit squads operating in the UK and even the US? Former MI6 intelligence officer and spy novelist Matthew Dunn shares his inside info here! What We Discuss with Matthew Dunn: Iranian hit squads are operating in the UK, the US, and other Western nations, threatening to kidnap, torture, and kill Iranians living abroad who are critical of the current regime. These hit squads are not expendable cannon fodder — they’re usually composed of former members of the Iranian security forces and intelligence services who are seriously trained to get the job done. This is not a new phenomenon — these hit squads have been working since the ’80s. But how have they kept themselves largely out of the public eye, and why have they suddenly become more active than ever before? We’ll examine the threat these hit squads pose to their targets and the general population, and scrutinize whether or not Western intelligence agencies are taking them seriously enough to counter their efforts. What function does MI6 serve in the post-Cold War landscape, and how does someone get invited to become part of its team? And much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/912 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
19 Okt 20231h 9min
911: Esther Perel | Cheating, Argument, and Conflict
Where should we begin examining our problems with relationships, cheating, conflict, and more? Legendary therapist Esther Perel talks us through it here! What We Discuss with Esther Perel: People who cheat don't necessarily want to leave their partner — they want to leave what they have become, or to get in touch with another part of themselves that they miss. Is monogamy a state that mating humans evolved toward naturally, or is it more of a social construct imposed for the sake of control? Most of us don't argue because we love conflict, but because we're trying to galvanize some kind of change that requires another person's participation. So how can we argue better for the sake of both parties? What we can learn from conflict — especially with respect to creating connection. As an expert in intimacy and human connection, where does Esther see us heading as a species when we can all have bespoke AI in our pocket that just exists to make us happy? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/911 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
17 Okt 20231h 14min
910: 90% of the Time, Parents Aren't Toxic Every Time | Feedback Friday
How do you and your sis endure life under your parents—who are "only" abusive 10% of the time—until you're old enough to leave? Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How do you and your sister endure life under your parents — who are "only" abusive 10% of the time — until you're old enough to leave home? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!] Your long-term partner has been dropping hints about opening up your relationship, which only makes you feel like you're not good enough for him. Will insisting on maintaining monogamy just urge him to move on — and would that be the worst thing in the world if you each want something different from a relationship? While you're flattered your company thinks enough of you to offer you your boss' job when he retires, you're content where you are and don't really want to be working 70-80 hours a week in your 50s. How can you tactfully turn down such an "opportunity" without appearing ungrateful? You know all the other MLMs out there are scams that prey on people eager to "be their own boss" while draining their bank accounts by making them buy products they don't need and will never sell. But the one you belong to is totally different, right? Right? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/910 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
13 Okt 20231h 8min
909: Israel and Hamas | Out of the Loop
What brought long-term hostilities between Israel and Hamas to a boiling point, and what happens next? Ryan McBeth brings us in from Out of the Loop. Welcome to what we're calling our "Out of the Loop" episodes, where we dig a little deeper into fascinating current events that may only register as a blip on the media's news cycle and have conversations with the people who find themselves immersed in them. On This Episode of Out of the Loop with Ryan McBeth, We Discuss: Hamas, a Sunni Islamist group that seeks to establish an Islamic state in Palestine, launched a terrorist attack against Israel this week. Retaliation has been swift, but as many as 150 civilians (some of them American) are being held hostage. By the time this episode is published, Israel's death toll from these attacks has hit 1,200. More than 1,100 people have died in Israeli air strikes on Gaza. What started the feud between Israel and Hamas, how long these hostilities have been escalating, and what ignited the current round of atrocities. Contrary to popular belief, Hamas doesn't represent the majority of Palestinians currently suffering under Israeli retaliation. While it's impossible to predict how long this conflict will last, further escalation with the use of more destructive weaponry threatens both sides in a lose/lose war. And much more! Connect with Jordan on Twitter, on Instagram, and on YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on an Out of the Loop episode, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/909 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
12 Okt 20231h 9min
908: Tobias Rose-Stockwell | Dismantling the Outrage Machine
Outrage Machine author Tobias Rose-Stockwell explains how social media fuels our negative emotions and disrupts society — and what we can do about it. What We Discuss with Tobias Rose-Stockwell: How social media inadvertently created what Tobias Rose-Stockwell calls an "outrage machine" that fuels our negative emotions and disrupts society. Because it generates more attention (which translates into more money), negative news is more widely shared and discussed than good news, which makes it seem like the world is worse than it actually is. The more information we produce and share online, the more powerful the algorithms and AI designed to keep us engaged — and outraged — become. The longer people spend on social media, the more likely they are to be politically extreme — and elements on every inch of the political spectrum manipulate this to their advantage. The steps we can take to guard against the outrage machine's control over our emotions and distortion of our reality. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/908 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
10 Okt 20231h 21min
907: Sis Lives to Excess, and Dad's Remembering Less | Feedback Friday
Is your mean drunk sister really the best choice to care for your dad while he's going through the early stages of dementia? Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday: Is your mean drunk sister really the best choice to care for your dad while he's going through the early stages of dementia? Can someone who was abused during involuntary commitment receive anonymous therapy to work through their trauma without the therapist knowing their identity or reporting them to the police if they disclose suicidal thoughts? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!] How do you politely (and effectively) get it through your annoying ex-employee's skull that he no longer works for you and shouldn't show up to your wine bar six days a week? How can you help your good-hearted but socially anxious and disheveled friend overcome their self-defeating behaviors and find romance? A listener shares how our very own Jase's story in episode 881 helped them unload a long-time mental burden with the help of a good friend. Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/907 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
6 Okt 20231h 12min
906: Shane Parrish | Decoding Decisions Through Clear Thinking
Learn how to optimize decision-making, gain competitive advantage, and live more intentionally through clear thinking with Farnam Street's Shane Parrish. What We Discuss with Shane Parrish: Clear thinking equips you to identify transformative moments and adjust your response in the critical space between stimulus and reaction. Despite seeing ourselves as life's main characters, many of us operate on autopilot, guided by ingrained behavioral defaults shaped by biology, evolution, and culture. In our lowest moments, we react without thought, often missing the chance to engage in reasoning. Conversely, at our best, we identify these moments and employ our full capacity for reasoning. Your options are defined by your position in ordinary moments. A good position offers abundant and improved choices, while a bad one confines and diminishes options over time. Learn how you can optimize decision-making, gain competitive advantage, and live a more intentional life through clear thinking. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/906 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
5 Okt 20231h 15min
