#68: How to Talk About Sex with Vanessa & Xander Marin
On Attachment25 Apr 2023

#68: How to Talk About Sex with Vanessa & Xander Marin

In today's episode, I'm joined by Vanessa & Xander Marin. She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience, he’s a regular dude, and they recently co-authored their first book Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, which became an instant NYT bestseller.

We cover:

  • The five conversations you need to be having about sex
  • Navigating mismatched libido & (perceived) sexual rejection in relationships
  • How emotional intimacy (or lack thereof) impacts sexual intimacy
  • What to do when sex becomes a heavy, high-pressure topic in your relationship
  • How to bring back fun, play & lightness to your sex life

Follow Vanessa & Xander on Instagram @vanessaandxander, and tune in to their podcast, Pillow Talks, for totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more.

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