Top Psychologist: How To Heal A Broken Heart & ATTRACT Healthy Love | Guy Winch

“It’s not what happens to you that defines who you are, it’s ultimately your decisions.” - Elizabeth Smart There are a lot of heartbreaking things that happen in this world. I’m sure you have your own stories. Being a victim doesn’t end with the event. It continues on for a lifetime. In the end, you have no control over what happened to you. There’s no going back. What you do have control over is the decisions you make on the other side -- how you let these tragedies affect you. You need to not only stay strong but also learn to forgive. When I say this, I say it from personal experience. I have gone through abuse when I was younger, and I understand how it can disrupt you to your core. But forgiveness isn’t for them. It’s for you. Forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened is ok. It doesn’t mean you let go of what happened and consider everything to be just fine. It doesn’t eliminate what happened. Forgiveness is about allowing yourself to move forward as a better person. It’s about growing, rather than letting these events disrupt your life anymore. It’s about becoming stronger and learning from the situation to help others. There is no one who knows this better than today’s guest on The School of Greatness: Elizabeth Smart. If you haven’t heard of Elizabeth Smart, she was kidnapped by complete strangers at the age of 14 and held captive for 9 months. She endured nearly every terrible thing you can imagine. Today, Elizabeth is a NYT best-selling author and has dedicated her life to bringing empowerment to survivors and awareness to these crimes. On this episode, we discuss the biggest lessons she’s learned about forgiveness, her definition of hope, the importance of owning your story, and the biggest lesson she learned from her captors. Discover all of that and much more, on Episode 629. What’s been the biggest lesson about forgiveness for you? (6:23) If you could go back to that day would you wish it didn’t happen, or do you feel like you’re better off because of what you learned? (10:42) What was the feeling when you saw your family for the first time? (12:32) Do you feel like you’re still healing today? (16:20) What if you feel there is no hope? (17:32) Does someone who commits these crimes have no hope for a meaningful life? (19:26) Is there anything that you’ve given up hope on? (25:03) Do you believe in people? (27:42) What’s the reason to keep going when things are dark? (29:18) If what we go through doesn’t define us, what does define us? (32:09) How long it took Elizabeth to forgive and move on (9:46) The biggest fear for Elizabeth during her abduction (12:00) What gave her hope while being held captive (14:13) Her definition of hope now (16:46) The difference between a collective community having hope and a single person having hope (24:38) How people can be more educated to not commit these crimes (25:52) What Elizabeth wishes more people would do about owning our own stories (28:12) The biggest lesson that she learned from her captors (29:35) Plus much more... Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

18 Apr 201840min

“MORE AND MORE PEOPLE ARE THINKING TOO MUCH AND FEELING ENOUGH.” There is a certain art that I feel had been lost over the years in this country, and you may have noticed it too. It’s the art of seduction. Let me make one thing clear, when I say seduction I don’t mean unwanted flirting. I don’t mean trying to manipulate someone. True seduction is a lore more than that. Seduction is about selflessly making other people feel good about themselves. Their bodies, their personalities, and everything about them. It’s also about being aware of your own body. Owning it, being proud of it, and listening to it. In America we spend so much time on our phones, we’ve lost that seduction between each other. This is a topic that my guest today, Chen Lizra, is an expert on. Chen Lizra had a wildly successful Ted Talk on the power of seduction. She’s also an award winning entrepreneur, best-selling author, and a professional dancer. She learned all about the power of seduction while living in Cuba, where she was deeply inspired by the culture of body confidence there. She was able to see how people were able to really connect with each other, lift each other up, and make a true connection with their bodies. As a result, she has developed a powerful method of teaching body-awareness called somatic intelligence. I was fascinated during this conversation as she explained (and demonstrated) these principles and how they impact our relationships, our opportunities, and our self-confidence. Learn all about the power of seduction in our everyday lives, on Episode 628. Some Questions I Ask: In your Ted Talk you mention children are taught in America to be more closed off, is that right? (5:20) What career were you in before this? (9:10) How long were you an animator for? (11:12) When did your vision come together? (21:51) How long were you in Cuba? (25:03) What happens when we rediscover our natural sensuality? (26:48) How do you use seduction without crossing people’s boundaries? (35:16) How do we know if we’ve disconnected from our body? (45:04) What’s the difference between sexuality and sensuality? (49:42) How do we cultivate charm? (51:44) How do we balance masculinity and femininity? (59:38) Are you in a relationship now? (1:06:24) In This Episode You Will Learn: The common misconception about seduction (7:35) What Chen decided to do after her awakening (10:24) How she learned about seduction in Cuba (18:12) What Cuba has in their culture that allowed her to free herself from trauma (22:41) When and why we started to lose the connection with our bodies (25:16) How having elegance calms nerves (30:12) How men can connect more without crossing boundaries (41:47) How we can learn to listen to our bodies (45:58) How a man be more sensual to attract a female partner (50:47) What Chen has to say to people that feel vulnerability and sensuality is weakness (56:18) How her arm injury was a result of not opening up emotionally (1:07:42) Plus much, much more Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

16 Apr 20181h 19min

LOOK FOR SOMETHING TO BE GRATEFUL FOR EVERY DAY. Finding what makes you passionate is something a lot of people struggle with. We all want to find that thing in life that we are excited to do -- the drive that makes us want to wake up early because we can’t wait to get started. When you find the energy that your passion creates, it’s your duty to share it with everyone around you. That’s when you’ll make a real impact and people will remember you. Take care of them, and they’ll end up taking care of you one day. To go more in depth about the importance of living your passion, I wanted to bring back an episode with Steve Cook for this week’s 5 Minute Friday. Steve is one of the most recognizable faces in fitness today. He’s an IFBB Pro Men’s Physique Competitor, and spokesmodel for Optimum Nutrition and Bodybuilding. Learn how you can make an impact and inspire the world (and yourself) on Episode 627. Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

13 Apr 20184min

“THIS IS THE MOST LEGALLY SIGNIFICANT THING YOU WILL DO, OTHER THAN DYING.” Marriage is something that is so important to people. In fact, you probably thought about what your wedding would be like as a child. When people go into a marriage they think so much about their venue, their cake, their guest list -- but they never really think about what they are signing up for. Marriage is, legally, one of the most important things you can do. You are signing away half of your life. And there’s nothing wrong with that - if it’s the right person. On this episode of The School of Greatness, I brought on someone who knows so much about people being with the wrong person and how to set yourself up for a great marriage: NYC divorce attorney James Sexton. James has intentionally focused his practice on divorce and family law since his graduation from Fordham Law School. In addition to his Juris Doctorate (Law Degree) he has a Master of Arts degree from New York University where he focused his graduate research on the areas of persuasive speech and propaganda studies. To top it all off, James is the author of the incredibly informative book on marriage, If You’re in My Office, You’re Already Too Late. On this episode he discusses how a lot of people rush into a serious relationship without ironing out all of the details. He shares the insights he’s learned from thousands upon thousands of failed marriages. And he shared why he still believes marriage is a good idea. Learn all of the inside secrets to creating a successful marriage, on Episode 626. Some Questions I Ask: Have there been any clients that were going to get a divorce then decided not to? (9:28) What is the technology of marriage? (10:35) What training would you want people to go through before getting married? (17:12) How long were you married for? (23:24) Do you feel like when marriage gets rough that they should throw in the towel or work through it? (27:36) What are the most important things to find out about your spouse before getting married? (32:08) When a couple is disconnected, what can they do to reconnect? (35:32) What are the top 3 reasons people get divorced? (38:56) What’s the best way to handle financial stress? (40:47) What is the real reason people cheat? (45:48) What does the government dictate in a marriage? (56:47) Would you ever get married again? (1:05:21) Is there a marriage you’ve seen that you admire a lot? (1:13:23) In This Episode You Will Learn: Why people tell more to their lawyers than their therapists (7:29) The real failure rate of marriages (13:16) What inspired James to write his book (20:45) When one client realized her marriage was over (30:02) The thing James loves about divorce law (34:36) The best thing people can do to solve their problems (38:15) The history of marriage (42:00) How to keep your sex life satisfying (49:54) The importance of a prenup (1:00:18) James’ marriage advice to his kids (1:11:06) Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

11 Apr 20181h 21min

THESE SUPERSTAR TWINS COULD NEVER HAVE IMAGINED THEIR LIFE TODAY. One of the things I love most about how the world is growing is how the boundary between genders has been crumbling down. It used to be that a woman’s place was only in the home. More and more that stereotype is being disproven. Women are entering more and more areas that wouldn’t have been imaginable when I was younger. When I was a kid, when you’d think wrestlers you’d think Hulk Hogan or Randy Savage. Now you think of people like today’s guests: Nikki and Brie Bella. These two sisters are a true inspiration to the next generation of women. They are the definition of girl power and show that anyone can achieve greatness in anything they want. If you haven’t heard of the Bella Twins, they are WWE Superstars, Reality TV stars, and fashion designers. I felt so fortunate to sit down with them and have them tell me everything they know about greatness, which is a lot. So much, in fact, that this interview went longer than most episodes. I couldn’t stop, and I know you’ll love every moment of this one. Nikki and Brie told me how they went from small town farm girls to superstars. They talk about the adversity they went through, struggling in a toxic home environment, and even Brie losing her high school sweetheart to a drunk driver. Discover all of that and much more, on Episode 625. Some Questions I Ask: How did you get to think bigger than the farm life? (16:06) When did you audition for Diva Search? (24:15) In four days you had a contract with WWE? (29:16) Why were you nervous to be on Total Divas? (36:15) How do you know when to say no to something? (45:48) What was the moment that you cried the most? (54:16) When did you start to go down your spiritual path? (1:00:19) Did you go on your spiritual journey at the same time? (1:04:26) What’s the biggest lesson you both learned from your mom? (1:11:34) Has there ever been a point where you guys disconnected? (1:23:20) What are you most proud of your sister for? (1:28:02) In This Episode You Will Learn: What they dreamed about growing up (10:17) Their first job at Hooters (22:00) Why you should go to a WWE show (30:52) How long training was (32:30) Their morning routines (38:35) What it was like leaning on the job (50:23) The biggest lesson their father taught them (56:17) What it was like for Brie to lose her high school sweetheart (1:03:02) Their childhood regrets (1:08:00) What it’s like being in a relationship with inspiring, powerful men (1:15:03) Advice to coming of age girls who are feeling overwhelmed by the world (1:24:36) The feedback they have for each other (1:34:52) Plus much, much more Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

9 Apr 20181h 45min

DON'T GIVE UP BEFORE YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE. Have you ever wondered how people can be so great in the moment? How they can go with the flow so perfectly and know exactly how to maneuver a situation in their favor? Maybe it’s the ability to land that dream client who seemed unattainable. Maybe it’s being able to nail that trick on a skateboard, just when it seems like things are about to go wrong. In any case, the secret to your success and ability to go with the flow stems from the same place: failure. We all fear failure, but in the end it’s what makes us stronger. It means we’ve been testing the space, and working towards our dreams. To go into this more I wanted to post a clip of a previous episode with Travis Pastrana. Travis is an amazing athlete of a different type. He’s won gold medals for motocross in the X-Games, and is a phenomenal BMX rider. He even runs his own action sports show: Nitro Circus. Learn how you can become a master of your own passions, on Episode 624. In This Episode You Will Learn: How bad experiences can help you (00:49) Ways the greats push everything forward (1:27) What Travis does to stay on top (2:13) How your passions will help you succeed (3:12) Why not giving up is so important (3:35) Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

6 Apr 20184min

“The ones I’m attracted to the most have grit and grace all over them.” - Candice Kumai I’m sure you’ve had times in your life where you’ve felt broken. You may even be feeling that way now. In those moments you may feel like you’ve lost the ability to be perfect. You may even feel like there’s no point, that the boat has sailed. That’s not true. You have the chance to come out more beautiful of a person than you were before. In Japanese culture there is something called kintsugi, or golden repair. When someone would break something, especially of value, it would be repaired and finished with gold dust. These golden cracks were revered, and objects were considered to be even more beautiful than when they were brand new. These golden cracks gave it personality and a new life it wouldn’t have had before. On this episode of The School of Greatness I bring you a truly inspirational person with so much knowledge and love of applying this concept to ourselves: Candice Kumai. Candice is a Japanese Polish American who struggled with racism growing up because she was different. She persevered and saw the beauty in herself that made her different from others in her school and used it to become a professional model. From there Candice made a pivot to become a great chef, where she faced even more scrutiny in her new community for having been a former model. Candice has developed the unique ability of emotional kintsugi, where she can turn emotional turmoil, racism, and negative situations into golden opportunities. I really appreciated her energy and passion for sharing this idea with as many people as possible. Beyond being a well-known wellness influencer and chef, Candice has decided it’s time for her to tell the whole story of how wellness can come back into our lives after we experience being broken. Learn how you too can create beauty from your own personal darkness, on Episode 623. Some questions I ask: What was the hardest thing for you to reflect on? (10:16) Why is it that despite everything America has put them through, the Japanese still love us? (13:03) You had a relationship for a long time, is that right? (17:13) How long did you stay in Japan after the breakup? (23:08) Why did you want to do this type of book? (25:02) How do you think being broken makes us stronger? (28:47) What is the biggest problem a lot of Americans face with food and nutrition? (33:05) How closely related is food to our emotional stability? (41:04) In this episode you will learn: How things that were broken can become more beautiful than when they were perfect (6:25) What Candice experienced as an Asian kid growing up in Southern California (11:44) Candice’s experience of a breakup and losing a family member at the same time (18:18) Why Candice was always afraid to be successful (24:11) The biggest lesson Candice has learned about herself over the last few years (26:37) Principles we should be thinking about to have wellness all around (30:06) Why so many of us are afraid to be who we really are (36:48) Plus much more... Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

4 Apr 201850min

“HUMBLE VOICES CARRY FURTHER IN THIS WORLD.” All of us want to be loved and accepted. It’s how we were brought into this world, and it’s how we should be spending our lives. I’ve learned that if you want to get love you have to learn to give it, but it’s not always that easy. I’m sure you’ve found yourself around people who you may find creepy or that may hate on you for seemingly no reason. Your knee jerk reaction is probably to respond with an attack back, but that does the opposite of what anyone wants. Hate breeds hate and love breeds love. At the end of the day, how do you want to be remembered? I know I want to be remembered as someone who lit the way with love, compassion, and really tried to understand everyone I encountered. On this episode of The School of Greatness I’ve brought you someone who has been spreading nothing but love around the entire world: Bob Goff. Bob is one of the most interesting people I’ve ever met. He used to be a lawyer and has since turned his life into one designed to spread love. He is a New York Times best selling author, a diplomat, and a phenomenal speaker. He’s helped build schools and shelters around the world. He’s saved lives by educating witch doctors in other countries, and has even become the Uganda consolut to the US. This was easily one of the most interesting interviews I’ve ever done. Bob’s mission is one I truly believe in. And believe it or not despite everything he’s done he still gets haters on social media. We discuss how he deals with those haters, how you can love deeper, and how you can overcome your insecurities. Discover all of that and much more, on Episode 622. Some Questions I Ask: Are you insecure? (7:34) How do you do what you do? (8:50) What did you learn from the last 25 years of being magnetic? (12:24) Why did you want to become an attorney in the first place? (15:57) When did you build your first school? (21:03) What’s your best piece of advice that does rhyme? (26:17) Who are you right now? (28:22) How do you get in touch with the humblest version of you? (30:06) What does faith have to do with loving difficult people or situations? (32:54) How do you know if you are engaging people too long? (37:05) How do you deal with haters when you’re just trying to spread love? (39:48) You engaged with witchcraft people in Uganda? (43:50) Do you go to the witch doctor graduations? (46:17) What do you still need patience in? (52:27) How did you transfer from being a lawyer to having a massive social media audience? (53:53) What’s the biggest lesson you think you still need to master? (59:50) In This Episode You Will Learn: How people get caught up in stereotypes (6:46) Bob’s boat race experience (10:25) What Bob wants more than anything right now (13:06) Who I want to be in 10 years (14:20) Bob’s first publishing deal (17:33) How to really engage with someone (20:13) How to work towards the success you want (23:01) The way Bob handles haters (30:26) How you can make a large impact in the world (36:04) Why love will be what we’re remembered for (41:29) The biggest lesson Bob’s learned from witch doctors (48:30) Where the best headlines of your book would come from (51:10) Why Bob wrote his latest book (1:00:45) Plus much more Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

2 Apr 20181h 9min