EP11: Taxiing and Taking Off Again - Redefining My Fatherhood As Kids Graduate

“Fatherhood never stops,” Scott Asmar reflects in this episode as he talks about how being a dad changes as your kids grow into adults. He shares the moment he watched his daughter graduate and realized that parenting doesn’t end with their independence—it just shifts. What does it look like to support your kids when they’re no longer kids? Scott discusses how fatherhood has evolved, with dads becoming more involved at every stage of their children’s lives. He talks about the importance of staying close, carving out intentional time together, and respecting their adult children’s independence. How do you balance being there for your kids while giving them space to lead their own lives?

Scott’s message is clear—fatherhood is a lifelong journey, one that’s built on love, growth, and learning along the way.

Quotes

• “I had a revelation. And that revelation was that fatherhood doesn’t stop. Just because they’re graduating doesn’t mean fatherhood ends.” (01:30 | Scott Asmar)
• “But sitting through that commencement, it hit me—wait a minute, your duties as a father aren’t stopping. They’re just morphing into something different, something that involves parenting adult children. It was this revelation that fatherhood, like your walk with Christ, is a journey. It continues until you lay your head down for the last time—you will always be a father.” (02:01 | Scott Asmar)
• “Not only am I speaking to fathers who have biological children, but anyone can take on the role of fatherhood. And when you take on that role, you have to understand that it’s a lifelong journey.” (02:58 | Scott Asmar)
• “I was taking inventory of what were the things that I did as a father for her growing up that got her to this point. Some of those things I remember are the words of encouragement and strength that I would instill in both my children, in Alexander and Alexa, and to always fill them with secure thoughts to cultivate independence and phrases like, ‘You know, I know you can do it. You have to know you can do it.’ The goal of raising them, raising children, being a father, is that when we are gone, they are able to carry on.” (05:57 | Scott Asmar)
• “The most important thing that a father has to remember is that the time spent with our children is an investment, and that time is very important… We always have to remember that they’re a sponge; they’re the reason why we’re here, and we need to help them navigate through life. And that starts at a young age.” (09:51 | Scott Asmar)

Links

www.fatherhood.gov for resources from the federal government

Connect with Scott Asmar:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scottasmar5/

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