1070: Squatters | Skeptical Sunday

While we're trying to avoid talking directly about the current pandemic, there's no doubt COVID-19 is clearly crushing careers. Gretchen Rubin helps us ensure we can still be productive during this time. Also, Dorie Clark joins us to talk a teenager through coming out as gay a non-supportive environment. We have a lot happening here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/337. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: If you're wondering how to come out as gay when you're 13 and surrounded by non-supportive family and friends who might distance themselves because of their religious beliefs, Dorie Clark's got some wisdom to impart. As a freelancer, how do you get more remote-work contracts instead of onsite offers during the COVID-19 coronavirus crisis? Is your ADHD to blame for taking on more work than you can possibly handle, and does your imposter syndrome make you try too hard, or is there something else at play here? Your recently graduated girlfriend needs to get a job, move out of her parents' house, and become independent to make progress, but she doesn't seem particularly motivated even when there's not a global pandemic to navigate around. How can you be encouraging without nagging? You had a great job interview lined up, and then COVID-19 struck. How can you stay on the radar to have a leg up when things have calmed down and it's time to meet your prospective employer -- without coming off as too needy? How has fatherhood changed Jordan? Have new curiosities developed, and does he wish he could ask past guests different questions now? Your dementia-suffering mother's caregiver seems to be getting double-paid -- once by you and once by your mother. She does good work, but it's bothering you. What's the least awkward way to clear up the matter? Is COVID-19 crushing careers? Clearly. Outer Order, Inner Calm author Gretchen Rubin can help us remain productive during these weird times. Life Pro Tip: If you have an iPhone, you can set defined times when "do not disturb" mode goes on. Then you only get calls from your favorites and when they call you three times consecutively. It also works when you connect to a car for phone calls and prevents you from getting notifications while driving. Recommendation of the Week: The Tiger King Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

10 Apr 202054min

Kevin Systrom (@kevin) is a computer programmer and entrepreneur who co-founded Instagram in 2010 with Mike Krieger. This is part two of a two-part episode. Make sure to catch part one here! What We Discuss with Kevin Systrom: How Kevin and Mike made decisions at Instagram to best avoid project-crippling bottlenecks. Why checking yourself is a good way to ensure that you are less likely to wreck yourself. The game-changing but simple purchase Kevin made when Instagram became a verifiable success. Has Instagram contributed to Kevin's own feelings of FOMO? The strategy Kevin employs for reading books with optimal efficiency. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/336 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! The James Altucher Show brings you into the lives of peak-performers: billionaires, best-selling authors, rappers, astronauts, athletes, comedians, actors, and world champions! Check it out here! (Or wherever you prefer listening to podcasts in your ear-holes!) Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

9 Apr 202048min

Kevin Systrom (@kevin) is a computer programmer and entrepreneur who co-founded Instagram in 2010 with Mike Krieger. This is part one of a two-part episode. Look out for part two later this week! What We Discuss with Kevin Systrom: Why founding a startup now is probably easier for the average aspiring entrepreneur than ever before. What famous brands have pivoted radically from their origins to become massively successful (including Instagram). How to get honest feedback (and know when you should listen to it). How to get honest feedback (and know when you shouldn't listen to it). The simple idea that led to the creation of Instagram, and what made it stand out in a seemingly saturated market. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/335 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

7 Apr 202043min

A brain tumor had doctors guessing you should have died five years ago, but hard work and luck have reduced it by 50 percent and arrested its progress. Would it be wishful thinking to start long-term planning and getting your life back on track? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/334. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: A brain tumor had doctors guessing you should have died five years ago, but hard work and luck have reduced it by 50 percent and arrested its progress. Would it be wishful thinking to start long-term planning and getting your life back on track? How can you encourage someone to make a business out of a hobby they're really good at? More important: should you? In a world where nobody seems to listen for longer than five seconds, how can you politely have a conversation with people in a way that won’t just lead to temporary change? Your side hustle is related to your main job. Is it reasonable to leverage your paid time to work on things that benefit you personally? When your significant other had a traumatic childhood and shares the dark thoughts that haunt them with you, what can you do as a partner to be supportive without turning into a surrogate parent or therapist? You want to be able to work with anyone, but you have a passive-aggressive and prickly coworker who refuses to engage with you. What can you do to defuse the tension and build a proper work relationship? Life Pro Tip: If you are under a mandatory shelter-in-place order and feel the need to leave the house, blood donation is a qualified reason to leave. Not only are you getting out of the house and having some human contact, but you are providing society with a much-needed service. Set up an appointment and fill out the questionnaire beforehand. (Obviously don’t do this if you are feeling ill!) (Anti-)Recommendation of the Week: 100 Humans (It's a fun watch, but filled with junk science and biased politics. Don't go into this expecting anything beyond entertainment and you should be fine.) A quick shout out to Heather Lewis, who says episodes 246 and 321 helped give her the power to deal with the narcissists in her life and the means to secure high-level connections in her network! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

3 Apr 202039min

Isaac Lidsky (@isaaclidsky) is the only blind person to serve as a law clerk for the U.S. Supreme Court. He's also an entrepreneur, he was once a child actor on a popular '90s sitcom, and now he's the bestselling author of Eyes Wide Open: Overcoming Obstacles and Recognizing Opportunities in a World That Can't See Clearly. What We Discuss with Isaac Lidsky: Why Isaac Lidsky considers going blind in his twenties a "blessing." How Isaac's personal vision grew sharper even as his eyesight faded. How our brains construct reality based on our own mental models -- some of which we can control. How to reframe seemingly negative luck and events to work to your advantage. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/333 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! The NewsWorthy is on a mission to help people enjoy staying informed with a fast, fair, and fun approach to the news in less than 10 minutes a day, courtesy of host Erica Mandy. Get new episodes every weekday at 4 a.m. here or wherever you find fine podcasts! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

1 Apr 202046min

Rachael Denhollander (@R_Denhollander) is an attorney, advocate, educator, and author of What Is a Girl Worth?: My Story of Breaking the Silence and Exposing the Truth about Larry Nassar and USA Gymnastics. What We Discuss with Rachael Denhollander: How the culture of competitive gymnastics contributed to the commonplace physical and mental abuse of underage Olympic hopefuls. How Nassar was able to manipulate the trust of parents while simultaneously abusing their children, unseen, just a few feet away using creepy sleight of hand techniques and misdirection like a masterful pedophile illusionist. Why the same set of circumstances that make parents hesitate to believe that such abuse could be going on under their noses is the same set of circumstances that make such abuse possible -- and allows monsters like Nassar to get away with it for decades before their victims dare to speak out. How Nassar was protected by numerous enablers in the organizations for which he worked, and why they may have chosen to take his word over the consistent allegations of countless victims. Why Rachael was able to go public with the abuse that she herself endured from Nassar when others couldn't, and how this encouraged other victims to come forward. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/332 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! On WSL PURE's One Ocean podcast, Reece Pacheco speaks with activists, artists, athletes, and academics about ocean conservation, sustainability, and how we can all take action to save our seas. Listen, subscribe and download WSL PURE's One Ocean wherever you get your podcasts! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

31 Mar 20201h 10min

Due to the recent COVID-19 coronavirus outbreak, many of us are now required to work from home. As a team of people who have been working from home for more than a decade, we have some advice for those wondering how to work from home effectively during a pandemic -- and, of course, lots more on this Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/331. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Since we've been doing it for so long, we've got some pointers for working from home effectively for those of you out there who might be doing it for the first time during this pandemic! Your career is extremely specialized and your choices for moving to another company are slim to none. And frankly, you don’t even want to do it anymore, but you can't afford to take a pay cut to start over. What should you do? Your boss gets annoyed when you stand up and jog in place for five minutes every hour to stay limber after sitting for so long. Is taking such a short break really a demonstration of a lapsed work ethic, or is there more going on here? How should you respond to random people on LinkedIn who reach out to network -- even when you have no friends in common? You don't mind being helpful, but how do you weed out the timewasters? While you do have general social anxiety, you find yourself especially shy and less talkative around your attractive friends. Why is this, and how might you get past it? At a young age, it came out that your two older brothers were sexually abusing your younger sister. They were sent away for years, essentially breaking up your family. Now you're all adults and working on your mental and emotional issues. Where should you start seeking help? A quick shout out to Ashley Jensen, who sold her family's medical device company using some of the things she learned on this show! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, join his podcasting club, and check out his other show: See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

27 Mar 202048min

Gavin de Becker (@gdbaprotects) is the author of The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence and the security pioneer who designed the MOSAIC Threat Assessment Systems used at the top levels of government. This is part two of a two-part episode. Make sure to catch part one here! What We Discuss with Gavin de Becker: Why is "no" the end of the discussion for a man, but the beginning of a negotiation for a woman in our culture? Understand why you should be wary of the unsolicited promise. Should we try to join our intuition to our intellect, or do the two work better on their own? The difference between worry and fear -- why worrying is ultimately useless while fear can save your life. Try the Rule of Opposites exercise to calibrate your intuition in the moment. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/330 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! My First Million is a new podcast from host and serial entrepreneur Shaan Puri that explores the journeys of business leaders as they went from (you guessed it) $0 to $1,000,000. Check it out at The Hustle or wherever you listen to podcasts! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

26 Mar 202037min