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Are you ready for Masturbation May? It’s the month-long celebration of all things involving self-love. Your Femdom hosts certainly don’t need permission to extol the pleasures of masturbation, but we do think this month is special because everyone ELSE is talking about flying solo. Mistress Olivia starts off asking about masturbation habits: Are there studies?How much do people masturbate?What is normal?Why is there something called a gender gap in masturbation?Can you guess what percentage of people masturbate at work?Do you masturbate at work?Since your hosts are Femdoms, we'll talk about some of our plans for Masturbation May and we hope you'll try them on your own or even play with us!Practical ways to spice up your masturbation include:Ideas for new hand positions or lubeHow to involve your whole bodySpecific sex toys we love Tell us what you think of these tips for having a playful and exciting Masturbation May.Mistress Olivia’s blog:  Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

28 Apr 29min

What do you think of when you hear the term cock control? Mistress Erika says there are very few things more powerful than a man’s biological directive. She’s right and this episode is all about Femdoms who enjoy controlling a man by controlling his orgasm (or lack thereof). But, we’ve had questions asking if cock control automatically means chastity. Short answer, no, but the longer answer is much more fun!Let’s talk cock control:What does this term mean?What is the difference between cock control and guided masturbation?Is edging and JOI (jerk off instructions) considered cock control?Are remote controlled sex toys part of cock control?Where does gooning fall in these various types of masturbation sessions?What about the role of chastity or even a ruined orgasm for controlling that cock (and man)?What are some examples of cock control in a session?What makes someone a fun playmate for a Mistress? Why would a man want to turn his orgasm over to a woman?What is it about orgasm control that makes it so much fun for women?Hear personal stories about kinky playmates including how one man went from “if I’m paying, I’m spraying” to hands off orgasm control by Mistress Erika.Does someone have to be submissive to enjoy edging on command? We want to hear your stories and experiences so get in touch!Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

21 Apr 32min

BDSM: Are you a switch?   Are you a switch?In BDSM, what exactly ‘is’ a switch? What is the difference between power exchange in a Dominant/submissive relationship and someone who is a Top or a bottom. A chance comment by a podcast listener inspired this episode. Since Ms. Olivia and Ms. Erika are Femdoms - Dominant only and don't switch - we needed to have a guest who ‘does’ switch. Meet Miss Eden. She’s a switch and we have a great time on this episode.The ladies use quotes from podcast listeners and playmates to spark the conversations about:Does someone choose to be submissive or is that behavior from innate traits?How does someone find out they like to switch?If someone is submissive, what happens if they try to be dominant?Is it possible for someone to act dominant if they don’t feel that way?How does Miss Eden move between roles of Mistress and submissive?Can someone be 100% submissive or 100% Dominant?Why is there debate in some of the BDSM world about the validity of being a switch?Can someone be submissive when presenting feminine and then Dominant when in male mode?Does being feminized increase feelings of submission?Are all sissies submissive?We love our smart, kinky listeners and really appreciate your comments and questions. Listener inspired episodes are awesome!  Keep the ideas and inspiration coming.Find the ladies of LDW on Discord by doing a search with the letters LDW in the search bar. Our names should pop up: LDWEden, LDWErika, and LDWOliviaMiss Eden:eden@enchantrixEmpire.comTwitter X:  @SultryInEdenMistress Olivia:olivia@enchantrixempire.comTwitter X:  @MistressOlivia1    BlueSky:  MsOliviaPersonal Blog:  Experienced MistressMistress Erika:Erika@enchantrixempire.comTwitter X and Blue Sky:  @ErikaEnchantrix  Personal blog:  Intelligent Phone FantasyOur free adult social networking site:  Enchantrix Empire

14 Apr 34min

In this episode, your Femdom hosts talk about one of the most popular roleplay fantasies: the tricked, trapped, and transformed sissy fantasy. There are a variety of scenarios and options in this feminization fantasy and that’s what makes it so fun.(( There's a blooper that we hope will make you laugh as hard as we did. ))Today’s points include:What Ms Erika did on a Saturday night - hint, it’s not what you might think.What happens when a sissy is nervous about being transformed.Why does a Domme love to increase nervousness during some coerced feminization scenes?How does each woman create the sissy salon transformation fantasy.Is feminization always a submissive act?Why are most of us attracted to things that are taboo or looked upon as naughty?Switching gender roles and expectations as a way to take a break from “masculine” life and the responsibilities of non-femme life.Does sissy transformation ever get to the point of no return? What happens?Will feminization automatically mean coerced bi scenes?How does a Mistress manage the mindset of a sissy?This episode is full of ideas for roleplays about sissification and coerced feminization. Find out behind the scenes info about how these fantasies are created and performed.The episode ends with one of the most important reasons why it’s important TO YOU to have a Mistress skilled in feminization and sissy training.Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone FantasyOur adult social networking site: Enchantrix Empire

7 Apr 32min

Today’s episode is inspired by someone who is new to phone sex and stumbled across the LDW Enchantrix Empire of adult sites. He sent an email to Ms Erika asking if he can still do a call if he’s not submissive. That’s a great question! It’s true that most of the LDW sites have a Femdom focus. The Weekly Hot Spot podcast concentrates on BDSM, kink, feminization, and things like sissy training. But, do you have to be submissive to call us?  The short answer is no but that answer is too short for a full podcast episode so the hosts discuss talking with people who simply call for an intimate conversation with a smart, beautiful woman.Did you know that one of the most popular LDW sites is called VoxErotic? That means Voice Erotic or sexy voices. Which we do have no matter what we’re talking about.Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika almost take for granted that our most popular skill set includes things like being an engaging, well-rounded conversationalist. Even those who identify as submissive for the erotic roleplay don’t want to be the sub for the conversation after the play.This is a look behind the scenes of what we do and how we do it. Candid conversation, funny stories of epic sex fails and ideas for your future call with us. Speaking of joking around about sex ... remeber sex doesn’t need to be all serious all the time - it’s fun to be frisky with friends without the Femdom focus.Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone FantasyVox Erotic

31 Mar 26min

Mistress Demi joins us today to talk about some of the things you might not think about when you serve a Mistress, Femdom and/or Goddess.What does the submissive get out of the D/s relationship?In previous episodes, we’ve talked a lot about the physical benefits of BDSM: stress relief, relaxation after subspace, endorphin release from pain play, etc.  Today, we switch things up to have a conversation about benefits you might not have thought of.Goddess Demi brings up a great point. A lot of her submissives are in dominant roles in the rest of their life so submission becomes a break from having to be in charge.Some of the topics include:Submission as a way to let go of life’s responsibilitiesHow working with a Pro Domme can allow the sub to explore all kinds of things (sexual and non sexual) without judgment.Personal growth because the submissive is a reflection of his or her Domme and the sub is therefore working to make his/her Mistress proudGreater intimacy with the primacy partner (wife or girlfriend).Learning the importance of communication in BDSM, carries over into other areas of life.Using BDSM kink relationships to break away from shame, guilt and the pressures of trying to conform.  This is especially true for feminization and sissy training.This wide-ranging conversation about kink and the intersection of BDSM and trust, vulnerability and discovering a sense of belonging.Goddess Demi’s blog:  Sensual Cock Tease Mistress Olivia’s blog:  Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog:  Intelligent Phone Fantasy

24 Mar 32min

Are you an alpha male for much of your life - in charge at work and/or home - but you have a secret you can’t share with any of THOSE people?  Are you, perhaps, sexually submissive and feminization helps with that submissive feeling?Are you a sissy, crossdresser or even wondering if you might be trans?These questions inspired today’s episode we talk about power dynamics, power exchange and feminization by a Dominant Woman.  Topics include:** What is an Alpha man?** How common is it for an Alpha man to want to be feminized? ** What percentage of sissies that call for Femdom phone sex have an Alpha type career or job?** Does the person who is often in control always want to be in charge?** Are the Femdom hosts always in Domme or Mistress mode?** What do we mean by someone who is sexually submissive?** What does a Femdom look for in a sissy or submissive?** What about the use of erotic humiliation when it is sweet teasing or all the way to degrading emasculation?Both ladies emphasize that not everyone into feminization is submissive. This is especially true for those who are crossdressers or who identify as transwomen. We also talk about some of the relationships we have with our subs and girly gurls.How does having a close relationship with an online Mistress help with emotions like shame and loneliness?Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

17 Mar 29min

This episode is inspired by a man who called Ms Erika for cuckold advice. He wanted to know how to talk to his girlfriend about his desire to explore being a cuckold. In this episode you’ll hear about his specific situation, what Mistress Erika told him to do and then you’ll find out what happened!Topics include:Myths about cuckolds: this man doesn’t have a small penis, isn’t turned on by humiliation, and they already have a great sex life.How a phone sex Femdom finds out the difference between fantasy conversation and a request for real life advice.Some differences between cuckolding, swinging and an open relationship.Exhibitionist / voyeur fans in the sex sceneSome of the things a woman worries about before becoming a hot wife or cuckoldressCommunication tips for alternate lifestyles like cuckolding, BDSM, kink or actually any successful relationship, even the vanilla ones.How to bring up your cuckold desires. What to do when you don’t hear an immediate, clear answer to your cuckolding request.Some of the practical advice centers around talking about STD testing, personal safety with new partners, etc.Finally, what happened with this couple? Find out in this episode.Mistress Olivia’s personal blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s personal blog:  Intelligent Phone Fantasy

10 Mar 35min