Are you worried about topping from the bottom? BDSM advice from your Femdom hosts.

Are you worried about topping from the bottom? BDSM advice from your Femdom hosts.

We hear from a lot of subs who are worried about topping from the bottom.

That’s a BDSM term that means a submissive who flips the power dynamic in a way that is disrespectful, rude or otherwise irritating to the Dominant.

Some subs hear that and worry that they are topping from the bottom if they make ANY requests of the Domme. We don’t want you to worry so this episode is all about how to communicate your needs to your Femdom Mistress.

This is inspired by someone who wants to know how to request a Pro Domme to be creative without acting like he is trying to be “in charge” of the session.


Topics include:

What is topping from the bottom?
Some relationship dynamics and other issues to consider when deciding what is bad BDSM behavior from a submissive.
Insight into the role of vulnerability and trust in BDSM power exchange relationships.
How to communicate with a Dominatrix or Femdom Mistress
Differences in communication with a Pro Domme versus an unpaid kink player that you meet in BDSM circles.
Differences between fantasy submission and power exchange.

Your Femdom hosts give examples of how to communicate your desires in appropriate ways.


Remember communication, trust and honesty about what you need are the most important aspects of any BDSM relationship. This podcast will give you some of the tools to feel confident that you are not topping from the bottom.

Mistress Olivia’s blog Experienced Mistress

Mistress Erika’s blog Intelligent Phone Fantasy

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