172: When He Starts Making Progress, She Gets Scared He’ll Fall Back

172: When He Starts Making Progress, She Gets Scared He’ll Fall Back

Sometimes when a husband is making good progress personally and in the relationship, his wife has fears and doubts:

“How can I know that he’s telling the truth?”

“What if he’s just gotten better at hiding it?”

“it's scary to bring down my wall because I don't wanna get hurt again…”

This can be discouraging for both people, especially if a husband really is doing well.

He can feel deflated and hopeless thinking that there’s nothing he can do to make things better.

In this episode, I share with you specifically how to handle these situations and how you can build safety in a way that eases the fears and discouragement that both people can feel.

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