#023 - Jessica Da Silva - Marriage Therapist, Attachment Coach - Why You Should Know Your Attachment Style

My guest today is Jessica Da Silva, she's a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Attachment Coach & a Podcaster. Today we cover:

How to fix an insecure attachment style

The Four Attachment Styles and How They impact all of our lives

Why it's important to know your attachment style

Which attachment styles are the most compatible (and most toxic)

Why we repeatedly get into relationships with the wrong type of partner over and over,

The impact of adverse childhood experiences on shaping our attachment style

How to spot others' attachment style

How to cultivate emotional intelligence

Why you should have sympathy for the bullies at school

and

How the anxiously attached experience weddings

This episode is for everyone! Everyone has an attachment style. Even if yours is secure, it's useful to understand how others experience daily interactions with you. We all seek better relationships, and understanding attachment theory is a valuable tool.

If you want to take a quiz to find out your attachment style, check the link in the show notes.

I hope you enjoy my conversation with Jessica Da Silva

Keywords

attachment theory, attachment styles, relationships, emotional intelligence, secure attachment, distractions, expectations, parenting, social media, anxiety, attachment theory, repetitive relationship patterns, partners' access to phones, red flags, emotional intelligence, insecurities, meeting needs, healthy balance, love addiction, attachment styles, dependency, pop culture, loneliness, weddings

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Attachment Theory

06:12 The Importance of Knowing Your Attachment Style

09:18 Personal Experiences and Challenges

15:19 The Role of Secure Partners in Relationships

28:51 Understanding the Impact of Childhood Experiences

32:22 The Challenges of Modern Parenting

41:14 Understanding Attachment Styles

44:38 Cultivating Emotional Intelligence

48:11 The Pitfalls of Love Addiction

50:46 Balancing Distractions and Real Connection

55:34 The Influence of Pop Culture on Love and Relationships

01:03:03 Understanding Attachment Styles

01:05:56 Loneliness and Attachment Styles

01:09:12 Compassion for Bullies and Trauma

01:16:12 Attachment Styles Beyond Romantic Relationships

01:22:08 Jessica's Journey and Personal Insights

01:23:10 Jessica's Book and Future Projects

***LINKS***

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Free Attachment Style Quiz:

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