247 SelfWork: Self-Forgiveness and Seven Things That Might Make It Harder

247 SelfWork: Self-Forgiveness and Seven Things That Might Make It Harder

When I was a kid, I went to a Presbyterian church every Sunday and grew up there. Sunday School, church, youth group – the whole program. That’s not the subject for this episode, however. The topic today is self-forgiveness. Why did I bring up my church memories? Because I was very thoughtful about the whole thing, and remember asking my mother this question: “How can I hear me knocking on God’s door?” This innocent question was based on the scripture, “Seek and ye shall find. Knock and the door will be opened to you.” I was curious about just how I was going to know that door was opening if I couldn’t even hear myself knock.

I now realize our own beliefs are found in our inner mind and heart – we “know” them, but they aren’t concrete. We “hear” them inside our own thoughts and feelings.

We feel and know love. We feel and know sorrow. And we feel and know or recognize self-forgiveness. It happens inwardly. You can’t see it – but you can sure feel it. So in this episode, sponsored by BetterHelp, we'll talk about how to get to self-forgiveness and seven things that might make that harder.

Our listener email is from someone who’s very depressed and estranged from her family. She asks me what she can do… What would you say?

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