1099: Syria | Out of the Loop

Nir Eyal (@nireyal) is a behavioral designer who helps companies design products that move people, and helps people design their own behavior using the principles of consumer psychology. He is the author of Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products and Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life. This is Nir's second appearance on the show (check out his first time here). What We Discuss with Nir Eyal: Why time management is quite literally pain management, and the time you plan to waste is not wasted time. How the issues caused by technology today aren't dissimilar to the issues caused by technology that vexed Aristotle and Socrates thousands of years ago. Why you'll probably find the popular advice to try digital detox as a way to rid yourself of technology's influence over your life about as effective as a fad diet. The damage caused by accepting the media's spin on technology as a pervasive addiction over which we have no control, and what we can do to get the best of these tools without letting them get the best of us. How to nurture your child's healthy relationship with technology by empowering them with an understanding of its opportunity costs. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/250 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

12 Sep 201956min

Kobe Bryant (@kobebryant) is most known for his 20 years on the basketball court as one of the game's most iconic legends. He now focuses his famous tenacity on running Granity Studios, an award-winning multimedia company devoted to creating new ways to tell stories around sports -- like Legacy and the Queen with Annie Matthew. What We Discuss with Kobe Bryant: What creativity and basketball have in common and what Kobe has carried from the court to his new business. Lessons Kobe has learned from people who are the best at what they do — from Taylor Swift to Jony Ive to Sean Penn to Kate Winslet to Larry Moss to Oprah to George R.R. Martin. How Kobe manages pressure in high stakes situations on the court and at the head of a creative content studio. The music that gets Kobe in the mindset he needs to excel at whatever he does. The importance of learning how to negotiate with yourself in order to achieve greatness, and how parents might help their kids develop this crucial skill. And much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/249 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

10 Sep 201940min

You have a hostile coworker undermining you before management at every opportunity. How can you ensure facts will speak up for you instead of your coworker's toxic fabrications? Never fear! We'll show you how to navigate around a hostile coworker on this Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/248 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: A Detroit vagrant in his 40s probably has enough problems to deal with. Can any good come from pressing charges against him because he tried (and failed) to steal your laptop? You have a hostile coworker undermining you before management at every opportunity. How can you ensure facts will speak up for you instead of your coworker's toxic fabrications? You hear of coworkers getting a promotion because they're "smart." What does it mean to be smart? Is being smart related to IQ? Is it related to emotional intelligence? Is it related to street smarts? Or is it a combination of all of these? As a business owner in a new country who's pioneered your own niche, how do you avoid a race to the bottom in pricing and remain high in quality as competition attempts to elbow into your turf? Is it ever good to name drop when networking? How can you continue to network and problem solve for your peers, but also start to lay the foundation of credibility with your accomplishments to build future -- and likely new leadership positions -- at your company? You reached out to someone in your chosen field, and you were referred to two others who have agreed to meet with you. How can you use the FEW technique effectively when these meetings happen? Is it worth the ROI to obtain expensive credentials (like an MBA) early in your career? Or is charging forward to gain experience more beneficial? Life Pro Tip: When you get a scammy/spammy phone call, tell them: "I think you have the wrong number...this is a government office." Alternatively, you can play this sound into the phone to possibly get removed from the system's rotation. Recommendation of the Week: Dave Chappelle: Sticks & Stones, Comedians In Cars Getting Coffee (Dave Chappelle Episode) A quick shoutout to David Gray Lassiter! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

6 Sep 20191h 6min

Chris Bailey (@chris_bailey) is a productivity expert, host of the Becoming Better Podcast, and the bestselling author of two books about productivity: Hyperfocus, and The Productivity Project. In the time it's taken you to read this, he's probably written another. What We Discuss with Chris Bailey: The neurochemical reason our brains switch focus every 40 seconds (or less) and what we can do to recapture this hit to our overall productivity. Why giving yourself the time to unfocus productively with what Chris calls scatterfocus is as crucial to your progress as hyperfocus. How Chris harnesses scatterfocus to mull over and solve complicated problems without distraction. What Chris learned by deliberately allowing himself to enter a state of boredom for an hour a day for an entire month (and how he did so creatively). What the attention overload gap is, the problems it can cause, and why we're more susceptible to it than we probably suspect. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/247 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

5 Sep 201957min

Wendy Behary (@donsanddivas) has been training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years, and is the author of Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. What We Discuss with Wendy Behary: What's the difference between someone who comes off as somewhat self-absorbed and a full-blown, clinical narcissist? Is clinical narcissism actually on the rise in the US? If so, what’s causing it? Does narcissism statistically affect men more than women, or is there just a difference in how they tend to express it? When a little bit of narcissism can be a big advantage.  How to tell early on if you’re dealing with a bona fide narcissist, what you can do to remain your best self in their presence, and how you might possibly help them become their better selves. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/246 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

3 Sep 20191h 3min

When your significant other agreed to stop watching porn early in your relationship, you were relieved. But now that you've been dating for a few years and everything's otherwise great, you can't shake the feeling that they haven't quite given up porn and it feels like a betrayal. Is porn cheating? On this Feedback Friday, we do our best to get some perspective on this and much more! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/245. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Due to your own complicated history, your significant other's possible consumption of porn feels like betrayal. Is there a way to understand it from a different perspective? You spent six years training for your dream job only to be disqualified on a technicality. How can you motivate yourself to endure a similar time sink for another career when you know you're not getting any younger? As a business owner, how do you deal with the deadbeats who take advantage of your good nature and don't respect what you do enough to give you fair value for your services? How do people transition from the period of time they need to get experience in their field to the time they get paid for making use of that experience? Your significant other wants you to list the names of the people you've dated and slept with in the past, and then delete them all from your social media. Is this at all reasonable? You assumed you were having an email conversation regarding a business proposition with a man you know named Sam, but it turns out it's been with a woman named Sam whom you don't remember meeting. Now what? You're normally a great conversationalist, but when it comes to interacting with a superior, you find yourself worrying too much about accidentally saying the wrong thing and the conversation ends up stagnating. How might you overcome this? Life Pro Tip: Looking to cut the cord but dreading the inevitable call to the cable company where they badger you into not leaving? Tell them you're moving out of state where they don't offer services. Your cancellation call will take a fraction of the time. Recommendations of the Week: Happy Jail and Twelve Monkeys She Podcasts LIVE women's podcasting conference -- a literal who's who of talented and wildly successful women podcasters giving their all to make sure you have everything you need to make your podcast soar to the next level. Get your tickets now! A quick shoutout to Justin Phillips! Have any questions, comments, or... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

30 Aug 201955min

Rob Reid (@Rob_Reid) is a tech entrepreneur, early-stage tech investor, author of After On: A Novel of Silicon Valley, and host of the After On Podcast. What We Discuss with Rob Reid: The potential for synthetic biology to be leveraged by nihilistic mass murderers to wipe out millions. The potential for synthetic biology to be leveraged by altruistic medical pioneers to save millions. What CRISPR is and how its eventual availability to hobbyists may ensure there's a mad scientist on every block. Why the future of synthetic biology may be exponentially more dangerous to humanity than the nuclear proliferation of the Cold War. What we can start doing now to prepare for this future and minimize its risks while reaping its rewards.  And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/244 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

29 Aug 20191h 11min

Mark Geragos (@markgeragos) is a criminal defense lawyer who has represented high-profile clients like Michael Jackson, Winona Ryder, Gary Condit, Susan McDougal, Chris Brown, and Scott Peterson. He is the co-author of Mistrial: An Inside Look at How the Criminal Justice System Works...and Sometimes Doesn't.  "You never know what's going to happen -- especially when you're kind of the emergency room doctor of the law." -Mark Geragos  What We Discuss with Mark Geragos: How (and why) does a criminal defense lawyer stand up for the rights of someone who seems clearly guilty? How nonverbal communication and body language are used effectively in the courtroom. The court of public opinion and why it matters today more than ever. The skills Mark uses to control his emotions during life and death trials. What Mark witnessed in his youth that ensured his choice to defend people from criminal charges rather than prosecute them. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

27 Aug 20191h