Listen To This If You Feel Misunderstood In Your Career

Listen To This If You Feel Misunderstood In Your Career

Do you ever feel misunderstood by others? Maybe you feel that people at work don’t get you. Or that your friends are not on the same page. Maybe others truly don’t get you. But that’s not because of them, it’s most likely because of your own behavior. On this episode, I'll tell you why perception is reality. Look, no one cares about your real intentions. Not because they are heartless or selfish. It’s because people simply don’t have the time to conduct a psycho-analysis on every single new person they meet. That’s why we have heuristics. We make decision short-cuts all the time. And one of the shortcuts we make is to judge what we see. Now, that might not be the best thing. It’s always better to collect more information before you judge someone. But the truth is that heuristics work. They make our lives easier. There’s nothing you and I can change about that. You might wonder “How do I change other people’s perceptions?” The answer lies in the science of influence. When I mention influence to people, they often think it’s something “fake.” They often say things like, “I don’t want to fake it till I make it.” But the science of influence has nothing to do with that or snake-oil salesmen tactics. Persuasion and influence revolve around two related questions: 1. How does our behavior influence the behavior of others? 2. How does other people’s behavior influence our behavior? No matter what you do, start applying the perception is reality mindset to your life, right now. The next time your spouse thinks you’re lazy, maybe that’s you made her believe you are. And if people at work think you’re bad at receiving feedback, maybe that’s because you made them think you’re not coachable. Look inwardly. Change your behavior for the better. And always be mindful of how others perceive you. Especially, if you want something from them. Want to read more about this concept? Check out my article: dariusforoux.com/perception-is-reality/ Sign up for my free newsletter: http://dariusforoux.com/newsletter P.S. Do you want to get my best productivity tips for free? I’ve made an eBook with 5 tips, exercises, and video training, that you can use to get immediate results. Curious? Get the book for free: dariusforoux.com/productivity-secrets/

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