179: Critical Advice For Men Who Aren't Free From Porn For 90 Days Yet
Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction16 Jan 2025

179: Critical Advice For Men Who Aren't Free From Porn For 90 Days Yet

The 90-Day Freedom Trap: A Critical Warning

If you've been trying to quit pornography but can't stay free for more than 90 days, there's a crucial mistake you need to know about.

As a therapist, I see this same issue holding back almost every man who comes to me for help.

And wives, this matters for you too - it will help you understand whether your husband is taking the right steps to create real safety in your relationship.

So what's the problem? It's not about trying harder.

Many men put in tremendous effort, make progress for a few weeks or months, start feeling hopeful - then suddenly fall right back into old patterns.

The real issue is that their approach is incomplete.

Think of it like a gum ball machine: you need both the quarter AND the twist to get results.

Similarly, lasting freedom requires changes in two key areas: behavioral AND emotional. When men focus on just one, that's when the cycle keeps repeating.

Today, let's break down how to address both sides of this challenge.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here:

support@healingcouples.org

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

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