David Brooks: How to Really Know Someone

David Brooks: How to Really Know Someone

We may think we understand people. Where they are coming from. Why they act the way they act. … But what if we’re wrong?

New York Times columnist David Brooks’ family motto was “Think Yiddish, Act British.” He knew how to keep a tight lid on his emotions, which could be useful… until he realized that he would need to learn a lot more about the role of empathy to love the people around him. Now, he’s sharing the result of his curiosity on how we might get better at really knowing people. Perhaps that simple skill can help combat the loneliness, despair, and the divides in our social fabric.

In this conversation, Kate and David discuss:

  • How to love people with severe depression
  • How to see people as beloved children of God
  • Practicing intimacy and empathy
  • The difference between illuminators and diminishers

CW: suicide

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