Suleika Jaouad: You Are Not The Bad Thing

Suleika Jaouad: You Are Not The Bad Thing

There is a strange tension when we want so badly for the people we love to support us, but want to shield them from the pain at the same time. This is a beautiful, terrible kind of love.

In this conversation, Kate and bestselling writer Suleika Jaouad discuss:

  • What it is like to be the one suffering—all the guilt and shame and rage and mercy and grace
  • How we can create better economies of love around those who need it
  • The toll illness takes on those around us

This episode originally aired in 2021, but is one of our all-time favorites for an honest conversation on being a cancer patient and how to support people in your lives who are undergoing treatment. Kate ends with a blessing for those who feel like their problem is too much to handle—a blessing if you feel like "the bad thing."

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