Playing With Fire5 Okt 2024

172 Grieving Change: A Crucial Relationship Skill

We do so much grieving in our lifetimes. And not just about the deaths of loved ones—every time there is a change in our lives, we lose an old version of something. That loss can bring up big feelings, and channeling those feelings into an intentional, conscious process of grieving can be hugely beneficial for your life and your relationships.

Grieving relational change is a skill, and we made this episode to help you start building that skill, and to explore the complex web of emotions that come up when relationships evolve.

In this episode, we talk about:

— Expanding our understanding of grief beyond just death and loss

— The difference between grieving and mourning

— Why even positive changes can bring up feelings of grief

— Real, imagined, conscious, and subconscious relationship futures

— How to grieve the "imagined future" when relationships shift

— The importance of acknowledging and processing grief during relationship transitions

— Different methods of mourning, including rituals and symbolic action

— Why avoiding grief work can keep us stuck and slow personal growth

— How to approach grieving as a rite of passage

— The value of community support when processing relationship changes

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Music: Dance of Felt by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions

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