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Hey Lifers!We're in with our last ask uncut of the year! Britt is in Scotland and scaring strangers in her apartment complex. Have you experienced a bit of a sliding doors moment with your partner? Maybe your paths almost crossed before you actually met, or something happened and it meant that things could be so different to what they are now!We have a chat about a woman who is going viral for a post she made about how she wasn't attracted to her husband. It's getting...mixed reviews!Vibes for the week: Britt: movie - Promising Young WomenLaura: Netflix doco Bad Surgeon: Love Under the KnifeThen we jump into your deep, dark and burning quesitions! I’ve been with my husband for 13 years. Recently an openly gay dude who he’s acquaintances with started sending him messages at all hours of the night telling my husband how much he likes him and that he can’t stop thinking about what his 🍆 would look like etc. We would also wake up to deleted messages in the morning (so the friend had deleted it before my husband read it). It’s made me really uncomfortable. Yes, my husband showed me the messages but when I asked him to tell the friend to stop, he wouldn’t. He said “I’m not gay so it shouldn’t matter.” Eventually my husband messaged the dude and told him to stop but he did it in a way that was so undermining to me. The message was basically “I’m as shocked as you are, I don’t mind the messages but my psycho wife has lost her shit about it so to save my sanity could you just not send me those messages anymore”. The messages stopped but after that I feel so differently about my husband. I feel like he betrayed me….. just by the lack of respect and throwing me under the bus to the other guy. What do you think? Have I over reacted here? Last night my husband and I were just chatting and the conversation turned to our sex life. We’ve never watched porn together. I asked him if he had watched porn before, since we’ve been married and then again after our first child was born. During that convo, I became curious and started asking more questions but he said he didn’t want to talk about it anymore as it made him uncomfortable. Instead of listening to him and respecting his wishes, I kept questioning him. He got frustrated as I didn’t respect his wishes and he refused to talk about it anymore. I then became really upset and angry. Not because he put a boundary in place, but because he’d watched porn since we’d been living together. We’ve always had a great sex life (with the exception of dry times after the kids) and have always been open with our communication about it. Him watching porn since we have been living together and being married makes me feel like I haven’t been enough for him and like I’m not good enough, and he has to get pleasure outside of me. However, I actually don’t have a problem with porn - I’ve watched it myself before, watched it with previous partners and would have been open to watching it with my husband. Upon reflection, I now know why I’m so upset about it. In my previous relationship (before I met my husband), my then-partner watched porn a lot. It got in the way of our sex life and he never wanted to be intimate AT ALL with me. I really don’t know how to go about this and how to move on mentally. My husband hasn’t done anything wrong and this isn’t his issue. I went ahead and booked a holiday during cyber Monday sales. I only need one day of unpaid leave to be approved from my job (I’m a teacher) in order to go, however I didn’t wait for the leave to be approved before booking. For reference, people take unpaid leave for holidays all the time at my work. I have only ever taken one day off other than sick leave throughout my 6 years of teaching at this school. My boss has rejected my leave and told me to cancel my holiday or fly home half way through for this one day of work. It’s a professional development day and no kids will be there. Apparently I can’t attend via zoom (because she doesn’t want me to) and have to be there in person in order to reconnect with everyone. I don’t know what to do. I love my job and don’t want to have my bosses think of me badly, but I’ll lose over $1200 to book new flights home and my holiday will be shortened by 5 days. What should I do? If you have an question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram hereJoin us on tiktok Or join the facebook group here Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

20 Des 202352min

Hey Lifers!In this episode, we sat down with the talented Emily Weir, known for her role as Mackenzie Booth on "Home and Away." Emily shares the highs and lows of her path into acting, as well as the challenges she faced with alcoholism, her path to recovery, and the realities of living with OCD and anxiety. Emily shares how:-Her success in acting wouldn't be there if she hadn't committed to being sober-She realised she had a problem with alcohol-Her life and friendship groups shifted after going sober-Substances/alcohol can be the mask to what's going on under the surface-To seek and get help if you have a bad relationship with booze Em is a particularly insightful woman and in this chat, she opens up so vulnerably in the hopes that she can help shift the narrative of what an 'alcoholic' looks like. You can follow Emily's Instagram If you have an question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram hereJoin us on tiktok Or join the facebook group here Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

19 Des 202356min

Hey Lifers!It's so crazy that Christmas is so close! Britt is on her way to Scotland. Laura is not carol'd out. We have a bit of an accidentally deep chat about making Christmas feel special and how we can feel at this time of the year.Britt was mistaken for someone else but we all know she needs to clean her car before she could do well in that job! A few days ago we were sent a message from one of our listeners and it was such a big conundrum that we wanted to unpack it today. The short version is that our listener has been in a relationship with a man for a year, and they have kept it on the down low. He was king hit a few weeks ago, severely concussed and now has no memory of their relationship. She doesn't know what to do or how to be a supportive partner. We chat about Laura's personal experience that is quite similar and how we think she should go about supporting her partner. If you have an question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram hereJoin us on tiktok Or join the facebook group here Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

17 Des 202341min

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the Kiis Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

17 Des 202329min

Hey Lifers, Welcome to therapy where we unpack all of your dilemmas! First up today, kids with second child syndrome and main character kids that potentially need some resilience.Christmas hams are the ultimate raffle prize and they will now be coming home with Laura more often. We unpack the top google searches in Aus for the year. Some were to be expected and were a bit of a surprise. You can check out the whole lists here at The Daily AusVibes/Unsubscribes for the week: Laura: Unsubscribing from "Leave the World Behind" on NetflixVibing Carols on the BeachBritt: Instagram content creator Anna Louisa at homeKeeshia: Podcast by the two ex Good Morning America hosts wrapped up in the affair Amy & TJThen we unpack your questions:- I gave birth 4 weeks ago and my partner last night said our sex life is sh*t and it’s affecting him mentally. He said he doesn’t want to spend time with me because I never want to do it or “even give a blow job”. I really don’t want to so I won’t but I also think I have difficulty with sexual intimacy with him because after our last 2 kids, I felt pressured into having sex again 3 weeks after birth which was wrong. Where do I go from here? I feel like I have no sexual drive towards him but he thinks I have something wrong with me. -I was out with 2 friends and we were buying drinks in rounds. When it was my turn to buy the next round, I started a friendly chat/ flirt with a good looking guy in line who offered to buy me a drink. I said “I appreciate it but it’s my round for the girls so I’ll get it”. He insisted on buying the entire round… I summoned my friends to the bar and he bought the 3 of us a shot and a drink each. Very generous. Later in the night, my friends wanted another drink. When it was time to pay she turned to me and said “it’s your round”. I replied “you both scored not 1 but 2 free drinks from what would’ve been my round, so isn’t it back to you?” My friend laughed and called bullshit and said it’s still my round since I didn’t pay. If you took care of 2 free drinks on what was your round by queuing and flirting, should you still have to pay for the next? -I’m single and whenever I go away with friends or family I always get the trundle bed/ couch, so all the couples get the double beds. Even if I go away with my girlfriends they refuse to sleep on the air mattress on the floor. Should it be ok for me to ask to pay less for the accommodation because I get the shitty bed on the floor when everyone gets a proper comfy bed? -The other day my partner of nearly 8 years and I were discussing fantasies. I brought it up because you know, you want to keep the spark and keep things a little interesting. I told him that I’d always had the fantasy of having sex in public. He told me that he’d always wanted to have a threesome. I know it’s a pretty common fantasy for guys but I’m feeling a bit rocked from this. I’m only sexually attracted to men so I don’t really find the idea of having sex with another woman appealing. I don’t want to completely shut him down, especially because I was the one who brought up the idea of fantasies. I don’t really know what to do here. Have you got any advice? Is there a middle ground?    If you have an question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram hereJoin us on tiktok Or join the facebook group here Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

13 Des 202348min

Hey Lifers!Today's episode is part 2 of diving into narcissism. You can listen to part 1 on narcissists in romantic relationships here! Now we are taking a deep dive on having a narcissistic parent and how to navigate co-parenting with a narcissist.Firstly we are joined by Monique. Monique and her siblings grew up with a mum who was the most noticeable person in the room. She was generous, she was incredibly beautiful and she was also a narcissist. We speak to her about how her and her siblings felt about themselves growing up, her mum's manipulative behaviour & subsequent affair and how she went about actually cutting her mum off for good.We often hear the phrase 'blood is thicker than water," but for Monique, her life has been a lot happier since severing that relationship.Then we are joined by Nova Gibson. Nova is an expert on narcissistic abuse, the founder of Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service, and the author of "Fake Love."  Nova speaks with clients every day who experience narcissistic parents and she has an incredible insight into how to navigate these complex relationships. You can get a copy of Nova's book Fake Love!   If you have an question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram hereJoin us on tiktok Or join the facebook group here Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

12 Des 202347min

Hey lifers,Today is a bit of a silly, fun episode because we're all crawling to the finish line, right??Laura's been in some child induced hell for the last few days and Britt has learnt that kids can be assholes. Weird that it took this long to get here!Britt has a new theory of girl language; the things we say vs what we actually mean.  PS Ben, always get a gift.Plus we chat about how many of you have been through break ups this week because December 11 is the most common day for relationships to end! Is it a good thing to go into the new year with a fresh start and no strings to the past or is it selfish to break up with someone just before Christmas? If you have a question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram hereJoin us on tiktok Or join the facebook group here Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

11 Des 202340min

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the Kiis Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

10 Des 202335min