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Hey Lifers!Welcome back to therapy where we all share our shit and feel better about ourselves! First up today, well... it's chaos.Bills need to be paid and they're multiplying! But we also need to learn to distinguish the difference between a legitimate bill and a scam. *Brittany Hockley we are looking at you.We're all up to date with our skin checks, but Laura's got a bee in her bonnet about specialists waiting rooms. Vibes this week: Laura: Black Friday sales (swipe up swipe up ToniMay) Britt: Hand held steamer Keeshia: (snuck in two)Habit tracker app (This is the apple version)Podcast episode of The Daily Aus - Why a war crime whistleblower could go to jailQuestions for today: I’m 49 and have been divorced for 3 years after a 26 year marriage. I’m quite content on my own and have great friends but I recently decided to try online dating, just to see what it’s about and to have some male company and my profile says ‘nothing serious’. Anyway, I’ve been catching up with one guy once a month for dinner and sex; he is really lovely. Last weekend I went on a date with a different guy and he was wonderful too. My problem is… can I date 2 guys at the same time? I feel so guilty. The first guy probably wouldn’t mind that much but the second guy would hate it. Do I have to tell them about each other? My partner of 3 years has told me if I don’t ‘put out’ more he is going to leave me.  We are both in our early 30s and his number 1 priority in a relationship is sex. We currently have sex twice a week and that isn’t enough for him. He told me our sex life is shit and makes him unhappy and people our age should be having sex all the time. I have vaginismus which is getting better but I don’t find sex enjoyable. I cannot orgasm from penetration, it can be uncomfortable but I can still have sex. He has said everything else in our relationship is perfect but the reason we are not engaged is because of the sex.. I feel really low about this. Any advice please I’ve been dating my boyfriend for the last year and a half. I've been a nurse for the last 5 years working with children and I've seen some terrible things. When we first started dating he mentioned he didn’t like hearing these “horrible stories'' so I lessened them. Just recently I was talking about work again and he said the same thing “I don’t want to hear about these stories.' I obviously don’t want to upset him but from time to time I want him to listen to my day and just vent. Am I being ridiculous by being upset that my partner can’t handle listening to my stories here and there? Or do I just stop talking about work altogether? We spoke about our episode on vaginismus with the wonderful Jessie Stephens and you can listen here If you have a question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram hereJoin us on tiktok Or join the facebook group here Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

22 Nov 202353min

For 650 days Sean Turnell was held in Myanmar’s Insein Prison on the trumped-up charge of being a spy. Today Sean joins the podcast to share his incredible story.In our chat he recounts how he went from being a very cheerful university professor to life in one of the most notorious prisons in South-East Asia.  Sean shares:-How the military coup in Myanmar led to him being arrested -What life was like inside the 'box' that he was imprisoned in-What he did to remain sane for the 650 days-How his wife campaigned tirelessly for his release-Whether he lives in fear now after sharing his experiences of the Myanmar Military so publicly-The suffering of the people of Myanmar under a bestial regime that a lot of the world doesn't know about We were absolutely gripped by Sean's story and still don't understand how he remains so positive! If you'd like to read Sean's book and learn more of his story you can grab it here! If you have a question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram hereJoin us on tiktok Or join the facebook group here Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx        See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

21 Nov 20231h 4min

Hey Lifers,Britt had a big surprise this week and Laura had a wonderful family holiday; except for one part where she said something to a stranger that has made us want the ground to swallow us up!We unpack the redemption story that the Kardashians are trying to pull off with one of the world's most notorious cheaters Tristan Thompson.It raised the questions if your sister's or friend's partner cheated on them, and they forgave them, do you have to as well? Do you have to be okay with whatever they decide? Does it depend on the specific situation and what happened with the cheating? We also discuss the documentary on Netflix "Take Care of Maya" and the court case that resulted in a $211 million payout last week. We speak about Maya's mother being mislabelled as having Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy and the tragic outcome for their family that resulted.  If you have a question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram hereJoin us on tiktok Or join the facebook group here Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

20 Nov 202350min

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the Kiis Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

19 Nov 202331min

Hey Lifers! Britt and her follicles are back on the mic! Britt gives us an update on where her eggs are at and how round 3 of egg freezing is going. And Laura poses the question - Is talking so much about egg freezing increasing fertility anxiety?  We chat about Taylor Swift's maybe PR, maybe not PR relationship. Vibes for the week:Laura - Pet Ancestry tests! Buster is learning his heritage  Britt - Podcast The Trial: Ashling Murphy Then we jump into your questions & today has the most hectic one we think we've ever received.-My fiance and I had a threesome with a friend. Everything was consensual and respectful of boundaries. The woman who we had this threesome is now pregnant and my fiance is the biological father. He said that he was quite drunk (we all were) and he vaguely remembers the condom may have broken. I’m so embarrassed about how jealous I am now feeling that this is all happening and am even starting to question our relationship moving forward. It sounds awful because it’s no one’s fault that this happened but I am not sure if I can accept that this situation, it’s just become way too much for me.  -My boyfriend and I have been thinking about making a sex tape for ourselves. What’s your thoughts on this? Have you/would you ever make one? I’m not sure how exactly to go about it as I obviously would hate for it to go anywhere else but it would be cool for both of us to have access to it. Would love your advice on this subject! -I have been with my partner for 3 years . We own a house together and are engaged. Since February I have been feeling unsure if I want the relationship. Everything on paper seems good. But I am just not physically attracted to him. I even sometimes feel embarrassed that I am with him. On the other hand we get along really well. I also feel secure and have a lot of trust in this relationship. I have never had this before. He adores me so much and I mostly enjoy his company. I love the life we have built together so far but I also find my eyes wandering. No action, just wandering. I do however feel maybe I have settled for a nice guy but maybe not someone I am crazy about, maybe out of fear.  If you have a question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram hereJoin us on tiktok Or join the facebook group here Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

15 Nov 202352min

Elise Loehnen is the host of the podcast  “Pulling the Thread”  and is the co-author of 12 books, 5 of which were NYT best sellers. But then she wrote her first book under her own name “On our best behaviour. The price women pay to be good,” which was also a New York Times Best Seller. Before all of this Elise was the right hand woman to Gwyneth Paltrow and Goop, she hosted the Goop Lab TV show and Goop podcast, and was Goops Chief Content Officer. In this episode we take a big deep dive into WHY we seem to be so impressed by 'the hustle' and how rest has been branded as lazy and sloth-like. We speak about how women in particular struggle to 'switch off' and delegate the mental load of their families.We also spoke about jealousy, envy and why women try to tear each other down. Elise speaks about utilising feelings of envy as a driving force to show us what we actually want in life. She explains how we've been conditioned to suppress anger and the scarcity mindset placed on women. You can find all of Elise's work, her podcast, book & newsletter here!  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

14 Nov 202346min

Hey Lifers!Producer Keeshia is filling in for Britt today!Today's episode takes a stroll down a few different avenues. Laura forgot that she had a pap smear and went to have one again... ironically we spoke about it on the podcast the last time Keeshia filled in. We discuss whether there's a hesitation at the moment for people to be diagnosed with ADHD because it's become very popular on TikTok/in the media. Keeshia has been properly diagnosed and we will do a whole episode where we unpack it at some point.What do we want when we talk about people having cosmetic procedures? Do we want transparency or does that 'normalise' it to the point of it being promotion?Is it fair to expect people to buck the trend and 'age' naturally when they also are a product of the societal pressures to remain 'beautiful?'Plus Laura speaks about the current ebbs and flows of her relationship at the 1 year wedding anniversary mark. We unpack the intimacy paradox and how to keep desire in long term relationships. Is it even possible to expect novelty and spiciness when you also want stability, support and reliability from your partner? The intimacy paradox article is here If you have a question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram hereJoin us on tiktok Or join the facebook group here Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

13 Nov 20231h 7min

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the Kiis Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

12 Nov 202330min