David Lauterstein: Why Fun is Not The Same As Happy
David Lauterstein co-founded Nasty Pig, one of the most unapologetically sex-positive brands in queer history. Everyone expected his first book to be about that. Instead he wrote Sodomy Gods, a love s...
28 Aug 41min
Frank Spinelli on Shame, Trauma, and Why Gay Men Over 40 Are Reading the Wrong Map
Gay men over 40 have been running from shame their entire lives. Frank Spinelli says that is exactly the wrong move. As a physician, survivor, and author of The Shame Compass, Frank has spent decades ...
21 Aug 41min
Dr. Myron Krys: Successful, Wanted, And Still Alone
Dr. Myron Krys calls himself and loneliness bedfellows. He knows it from the inside, and he sees it every day in his therapy practice with gay men who look like they have it all. Krys explains why op...
14 Aug 48min
Colin Belcourt: Queer Shame, Self-Erasure, and Stop Cleaning Up Your Story
Gay men are experts at editing themselves. At work. In relationships. Inside the queer community itself. Colin Belcourt wrote a book about what gets cut out and why it needs to come back. The Blue Hou...
7 Aug 46min
Brad Ryan: 63 National Parks, One Grandmother, and the Healing Gay Men Stop Believing In
His father rejected him. His grandmother changed everything. Brad Ryan spent seven and a half years driving across America with his 85-year-old grandmother, visiting all 63 national parks, and quietly...
31 Jul 53min
Stop Negotiating Which Version of You Shows Up – Skip Sams
Skip Sams spent years deciding which version of himself was allowed into which room. Corporate leader in one. Recovering addict in another. HIV positive kept quiet in most of them. Then the rollback o...
24 Jul 39min
Your Body Is Lying to You About Sex: Fran Frye Breaks Down What’s Really Happening For Gay Men
Something goes wrong in bed and gay men immediately blame desire, performance, or themselves. Sex educator and trauma specialist Fran Frye says they're diagnosing the wrong problem. The real issue is ...
17 Jul 48min
The Quiet Parts Out Loud: Huck Smith on Gay Dating, Bar Culture, and Becoming Real
Gay bars are dying. Dating apps are killing real connection. And gay men over 40 are carrying stories they have never let themselves tell out loud. Huck Smith started posting honest essays online beca...
10 Jul 57min
