What is Fragmentation and does it spell "doom" for you? Episode #127

On today's #TeachableTuesday I'm discussing "Fragmentation in relationships" Fragmenting is pieces of something. In a relationship, this can come in the forms of someone in the family using/doing:

Strong views on politics, religion, and health issues

Drugs abuse

Alcohol abuse

Domestic Abuse

Divorce

Single parenting

Infidelity

Criminal behavior

Neglect and more!

What does this have to do with abuse?

Before I go further, there are plenty of people that experience one or more of these during their childhood and later have healthy and stable relationships. There are studies to show how these above can impact the possibility of an unhealthy union.

Men and women may have experienced the list I mentioned and resolve never to separate or divorce from their partner as their parents did. This can take a toll on a relationship. Many stay in broken or toxic relationships for the kids and vow to get away once the children are 18 years old or after they get out of college. Fragmentation can also occur when a person is trying to protect themselves from a traumatic event or a situation witnessed.

How can you heal?

First, be honest with yourself. If your relationship isn't working, perhaps you have fallen out of love with a person, or they have been taking on the negative behaviors that I previously mentioned and so seeking out counseling or treatment is a priority. If illegal activity is happening or abuse please seek out help through law enforcement. There can be healing and even reconciliation if everyone involved admitting they have a problem and work towards mending the relationship. Utilize self-care and take small steps towards reclaiming your life.

What do you think about this topic? Have you noticed any patterns that may be attributed to past or generational fragmentation?

Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. My goal is to share awareness, offer empowerment, and educate others about emotional traumas and domestic abuse. Here I will share my story and also stories of courage and healing from Survivors, Coaches, to Therapists/Counselors.

Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindakunst

Find help and info here-

https://www.thehotline.org/

https://www.domesticshelters.org/

https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help

https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations

Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/

National Suicide Prevention lifeline-800-273-8255