Hope when there was none2 Apr 2024

Emotional Blackmailer

*Sorry for the noise in the background. My youngest decided it was a good time to eat breakfast* What is Emotional Blackmail? This person may threaten to harm you or hurt themselves in order to get what they want or for you to do their bidding. Dr. Susan Forward coined the term emotional blackmail in her 1997 book “Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You.” Find this here- https://amzn.to/49mDckT Who does this? Someone that in the past may have experienced: Abandonment Moments they were made to feel unloved. Someone that has a narcissistic behavior Experienced trauma or abuse They have a low self esteem and low self worth Experienced blame or shame as a child They use this as a tool to keep control over someone they love or what they perceive as love. The victim feels guilt, fear or shame which is what the blackmailer wants. In many cases the blackmailer is just bluffing but the victim doesn’t know this or if they do they could be just so worn down they comply hesitantly. It looks like: A demand that could be very subtle or literally in your face. You may try to ignore or resist the demand but the blackmailer keeps up the pressure for you to do whatever it is. If that isn’t working they will start making threats to harm you, your children, family, furbabies or themselves. You then are so tired of this cycle that may go on and on for hours or days and you give in to their demands. This will play out so many more times in your relationship. “As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.”

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