Ep. 285 - The hidden freedom in letting go: Why we cling to people who don't choose us

Many of my clients have brought up this topic of wanting to feel validated by others and their ex. I’m here to tell you two truths about external validation that you’ve never heard before and the specific techniques I use with my clients to let go of the graspiness. You’ve never once been externally validated nor is validation a problem. Learn more in today’s episode as I unpack this all with you. In this episode: The two truths about external validation What to do about it Specific breakup related examples to help you apply it

27 Jul 202020min

If you’re anything like me, learning to trust after a horrific breakup was the biggest hurdle that seemed to last forever! After overcoming that hurdle I found that trust was the missing piece I needed for so many areas of my life. It changed EVERYTHING. Join me as I talk through the 2 types of trust you need to have prior to placing your trust on anyone else.  In this episode: What is trust? The types of trust. How to trust in a higher power, yourself, and others to be able to stand in your power again

20 Jul 202012min

We’ve all heard rejection is god’s way to redirect you. I’ll be giving you the real explanation of this along with, of course, the HOW do we implement this into our life though. By the end of this episode, you can and will be able to turn your rejection into curiosity and compassion for yourself and others. Which will leave you responding to rejection in a whole new way. In this episode: What is rejection and how we typically respond to being rejected How to respond to rejection in a whole new way Transforming your rejection into curiosity and compassion

13 Jul 202015min

Loving yourself is not the equivalent of self-care. We can take all the actions in the world and do self-care routines but if we don’t change our brains we don’t change the feelings. Instead, you might find yourself forcing the self-care routines vs letting them come to you naturally and organically. Two of my clients recently mentioned that “dating someone will have to be better than what it’s like to hang out with myself” and getting to the place where you are so obsessed with you than any other relationship has some serious competition to your relationship with yourself is where you’re headed with true “loving yourself”.   In this episode: What does it mean to love yourself How do I know if I’m actually loving myself vs just doing the self-care actions 3 simple steps to loving yourself during your breakup

6 Jul 202014min

What he’s saying about you doesn’t have to be your truth. Just because he says "You don't make me a priority" "You're crazy, you need to stop acting like I'm the problem, you're the problem" "You're a hypocrite" "You were the one that messed up" "You're just seeking attention" -- doesn’t mean it’s your reality. Nor does it mean you need to convince him otherwise.    In this episode: Learn how to let him have his own thoughts about you without it affecting YOU Identify your true identity How to not let your past dictate your present or future Productive disagreement

29 Jun 202017min

Living your life just tiptoeing around your pain doesn’t work, it’s actually more miserable than it is to just experience the heartbreak of heartbreak. Learning to dive headfirst into this experience will transform your life by awakening the dull dead pain you’ve been carrying for far too long. On today’s episode, I bring on my client Megan who talks about her experience of living and LEANING into her heartbreaks of life and coming out on the other side fully HEALED. She rewrote so many stories to end old patterns, got over her ex, dated healed, bought a new home, and SO MUCH MORE! In this episode: What it’s like to tip toe around your heartbreak pain How to live with “alive” pain Rewriting old stories and patterns, really doing the work Dating when healed From heartbroken and devastated to over her ex, new home, new boy, new vibes Sign up for the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program to be over your ex by September: https://www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

22 Jun 202049min

When we are in the thick of it it's hard to really even imagine what it would be like to truly get over your ex. It seems impossible even which can make you feel oh so defeated in life and 100% not like yourself. In this week’s episode hear from 5 bravehearts who are between week 5 and 12 of working together and their experience in recently getting over their ex.  In this episode: From 10 year relationship to divorce to a motivated, happy, badass in 6 weeks From a broken hearted birthday to grateful, confident in herself and over him to so magnetic and in love with herself that she attracted her ex back into her life in 10 weeks From calling her ex 30 times in a row and traumatized to uncovering and letting go of shame to living herself for the first time in 12 weeks From hung up on her ex from years past while in a relationship with her current boyfriend to letting go of anger and resentment from the past to getting engaged in 10 weeks From a back and forth and rocky relationship to no longer reacting to her emotions to standing in her power in all aspects of life including totally over her ex in 12 weeks Sign up for the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program to be over your ex by September: https://www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

22 Jun 20201h 10min

Hear from 5 of my clients who have worked with me from 9 months to a year and a half! We talk about what led them to coaching, who they are in comparison to who they used to be. The results they have created in their life BECAUSE of their heartbreak and their most important words of wisdom.  In this episode: Inspiration from fellow bravehearts How to believe you’ll get through this on purpose Making this the most transformational time of your life Words of wisdom from those who have gone through the thick of heartbreak Info from speakers: Jessica - www.jessicaharkins.com Katie - @betweenourroots Michele - www.heartbreakcoachmichele.com @heartbreakcoachmichele Chelsey  Tela - @tela_hill102

15 Jun 202044min