191: When His Sexual Desire Goes Down as He Becomes Free From Pornography (and tools to rebuild your sexual relationship)

191: When His Sexual Desire Goes Down as He Becomes Free From Pornography (and tools to rebuild your sexual relationship)

Today we're talking about something couples rarely discuss: when a husband's interest in sex drops after he stops using porn.

For wives, this can feel very confusing and hurtful. After working hard to heal the relationship, it's painful when intimacy doesn't return as expected. She might wonder, "Doesn't he find me attractive? Is he really getting better?"

But lower sexual desire after recovery isn't always a bad sign. It's often part of a necessary reset in understanding healthy intimacy.

The drive for sex that was powered by fantasy starts to quiet down, creating space for real connection to grow.

Today I'll share five reasons why desire decreases during recovery and how couples can build a fulfilling sex life based on both people's needs, emotional safety, and genuine connection.

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88. 2 Ways to Increase a Husband’s Compassion and Empathy in Marriage

88. 2 Ways to Increase a Husband’s Compassion and Empathy in Marriage

When a marriage is impacted by pornography addiction, it causes a lot of damage and pain. One of the most important things in the healing process is having compassion and empathy for a wife who has be...

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87. How to Properly Disclose a Relapse (and Avoid a Fight)

87. How to Properly Disclose a Relapse (and Avoid a Fight)

On the path to overcoming a pornography addiction, there are often slips and relapses, and those conversations are painful to have. There is a clear, three-step framework I teach to clients to actuall...

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86. 3 Ways To Improve Intimacy After Pornography Addiction

86. 3 Ways To Improve Intimacy After Pornography Addiction

Sexual intimacy is often times badly damaged after discovering a pornography addiction.  There are fears, feelings of inadequacy, triggers, and painful feeling that go along with intimacy as a result ...

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85. 3 Tools to Overcome Feelings of Unworthiness

85. 3 Tools to Overcome Feelings of Unworthiness

When overcoming a pornography addiction, many men experience feelings of unworthiness or some version of feeling not good enough, failure, bad, or defective.  Very often, a wife will experience unwort...

23 Mar 202327min

84. These Types of Boundaries Can Unintentionally Hurt Your Marriage

84. These Types of Boundaries Can Unintentionally Hurt Your Marriage

Creating boundaries in a marriage that's been affected by pornography addiction is a very common solution that offered.  I found that there are certain types of boundaries and the timing they are impl...

9 Mar 202328min

83. How to Identify the Root Cause of Your Pornography Addiction

83. How to Identify the Root Cause of Your Pornography Addiction

When a man struggles with a pornography addiction, identifying the root cause in resolving it on that level is the most effective way to help him change and overcome the addiction. Without knowing wha...

3 Mar 202324min

82. When She Feels Lots of Anger and Resentment

82. When She Feels Lots of Anger and Resentment

After there has been betrayal in a relationship due to a pornography addiction, it’s very common for a wife to experience a lot of anger and resentment.  There are 3 things that a husband can do to de...

24 Feb 202330min

81. 3 Tools to Bounce Back Effectively After a Relapse

81. 3 Tools to Bounce Back Effectively After a Relapse

Relapses can be extremely discouraging both for the husband who is trying to overcome pornography, addiction, and for his wife.  In this episode, I share three specific things that you can do as a hus...

19 Feb 202317min

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