Stoic leadership13 Feb 2020

EP20 - Which of my pleasures are really punishments?

The pleasures which take me from tranquillity other ones which are like a wolf in sheep‘s clothing. Is tranquility better than fun? Drinking has countless costs and punishes us with hangovers and bad decisions. But it’s fun for a short term. It releases stress. But we know the toll on our bodies and our emotional well-being can be enormous. The costs are not just financial, but they are costs in terms of maintenance and headaches. Where will I store the JetSki? I have to get the car fixed. I have to think about travel insurance. .................................. The problem is not that we are attached to our positions. Rather that our possessions have so many attachments. We have to deal with these positions in actions or in thoughts. Each possession has numerous tentacles into our life. It’s in my power whether I get attached to a position. However, it is not in my power to detach myself. .............................. All pleasures have a cost, even love. The cost of love is freedom. The ultimate love is the love of a child. Before my kids were born, I could decide to do something at 1 pm and it was pretty much within my power whether I did it. But once a child is born, if they fall asleep at 12:45 just before I have to go out, I cannot longer go out. My freedom is compromised. ........................... All pleasures have a cost. Account for it. When the cost exceeds the pleasure, it becomes a punishment.

https://www.stevendipietro.com/blog/2020/2/14/diary-20-which-of-my-pleasures-are-really-punishments-keynote-speaker

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EP49 - Finding the hidden recesses of uncontrollable guilt

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EP48 - Getting thoughts out of your head

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EP 47 - What would less look like?

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EP46 - Counterfeit advice

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EP45 - A fisherman who can't fish

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EP44 - It's never as bad as it gets

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