056-Self love part 5 - Buddhism in daily life

Loving yourself more also requires some self-love exercises. First of all, ask yourself what you like to do. Do you like to go for a walk? Or do you cook particularly well? Every person has activities that he/she prefers, that are easy to do, and that make you feel good. What do you like to do? Write down 3 such things on a small Post-It, hang up the note so that you can see it well. If you find yourself disliking something, first do one of the activities from this post-it note.

Furthermore, it is important to be able to overlook your own weaknesses, perhaps even to be amused by your own shortcomings. Laughter is the best medicine. According to Buddha, it is your karma to be the way you are. Therefore, there is nothing to be ashamed of, because it is just the way it is. So the next time you make a mistake, just smile, enjoy yourself, don't take things tragically, accept yourself as a person, you are that way because it is your destiny to be that way.

If you still have problems to love yourself (or at least to like yourself), you should write a list with all the things you like about yourself. In doing so, it usually turns out that there are many more things about one's self that are at least "good", that one can at least like, so that one can better understand the person as a whole, which in turn allows for more emotion towards one's self.

What do you like about yourself? Your body, your looks, your wit, or your quick wit? There are things to like in everyone, so don't say that there is nothing in you.

You can always compare yourself with other people. If I don't like this or that quality in myself, how do I relate to other people who have similar sides? Can I draw conclusions here? What if I am unfair to myself, much too harsh, while I am more lenient with other people, forgiving even unpleasant qualities that I find "terrible" in myself?

You see, self-love has a lot to do with preoccupation with one's own person. Even the most beautiful people think of themselves as not looking their best. Everything needs to be put into perspective. The greatest enemy of self-love is our inner critic, the ego, which must be silenced.

According to Buddha, of course we can love ourselves, because everything is impermanent.

And the path is the goal!

Nothing but the mind is recognizable

- Buddha - honorary name of Siddharta Gautama - 560 to 480 before the year zero

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