Q & A: What If I'm the Only One Working on My Marriage?
Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast2 Mai 2025

Q & A: What If I'm the Only One Working on My Marriage?

Have you ever felt like you are the only one putting in the work, or maybe you're putting in a significantly more amount of work than your spouse is? That can feel very unjust. It can feel unfair, and most of us get tired of doing that. We have a question that I think all of us can probably relate to at some point: What if I'm doing more work on my marriage than my spouse?

Key Takeaways:

  1. Change Your Step:
    Alter your approach in the relationship. When you change how you respond, your spouse will also have to adjust, breaking unhelpful cycles.

  2. Be Patient:
    Trust takes time to rebuild—don’t expect overnight results. Your consistency over time demonstrates commitment.

  3. Play the Long Game:
    Rebuilding a relationship is a marathon, not a sprint. Focus on progress, not perfection.

  4. Fix Your Focus:
    What you focus on grows. Shift your attention from what your spouse isn’t doing to the positive changes you’re making and what you want for your marriage.

Featured Resource:

Infidelity Intensive—a step-by-step online course designed to move couples from pain to restoration after betrayal. Learn more at danache.com/infidelityintensive.

Submit Your Questions:
Have a question for Dana? Reach out here or DM on Instagram @mrsdanache.

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