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Episode 601: Removing Shame and Roadblocks to Women's Sexual Pleasure with Sexologist Lucy Rowett. Guest Bio: Lucy Rowett, CSC, is a certified sexologist and sex coach who is passionate about helping women and people with vulvas let go of sexual shame and hangups and embrace pleasure to create the passionate relationships they've always desired. She is the host of the Naked and Unashamed Life podcast, and the resident sex coach at UK contraception platform, The Lowdown. She is regularly quoted in the media for her expertise in sexual health and wellness, pleasure, and sexual shame- including iNews, Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, GQ, The Sun, Insider, and Glamour. In 2023, she was nominated for somatic sexologist of the year at the sexual freedom awards. She uses a combination of mind body tools with evidence-based sexuality education to create a fun and open space for women and vulva havers to explore their full erotic potential. Her speciality is working with women and people with vulvas who come from Faith backgrounds who are struggling to let go of sexual shame and enjoy pleasurable and intimate relationships again. Summary: Breaking Free from Sexual Shame: A Revolutionary Conversation Dive into a transformative discussion between Ruan Willow and sexologist Lucy Rowett as they tackle the often-silenced topic of women's sexual pleasure. This eye-opening episode challenges the deeply rooted shame surrounding female sexuality and offers a fresh perspective on embracing our natural desires. Lucy, a specialist in supporting women and non-binary individuals, shares powerful insights about: - The universal impact of sexual shame across all backgrounds - Dismantling harmful cultural narratives that suppress pleasure - The importance of comprehensive sexual education - Understanding female arousal and the physiology of pleasure - Creating safe spaces for sexual exploration and expression The conversation navigates through the evolution of female sexuality in modern culture, from the mainstreaming of erotic literature to the vital role of sex-positive communities in fostering acceptance and growth. Ready to transform your relationship with pleasure and embrace a shame-free approach to sexuality? This episode is your gateway to understanding and celebrating your sexual wellbeing. Tune in now for an empowering journey towards sexual liberation. Sexual health is mental health, and your sexual wellness matters! Links: Learn more: https://lucyrowett.com/ Free guide to confident sexual communication: https://bit.ly/askforwhatyoureallywant Free meditation to connect to your vulva: https://bit.ly/handheartv Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lucylurowett Podcast: The Naked and Unashamed Life Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0MdbEOJW9nXRqLsAMSTRAn?si=2ce2d298be93495c Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

25 Apr 49min

Season 5, Episode 599: Watching the Blindfolded Wife Threesome by Sierra Dumont, narrated by podcast host Ruan Willow.  A MFM Hotwife erotic lit story where the hubby is the director of the sexy goings-on! Female pleasure on overload! Yes please! It's an alternative lifestyle relationship where he enjoys wife-sharing with his friend and co-worker, ENM style!  Scroll down to access free erotic books! About the Author Sierra Dumont: Sierra writes about women being passed around, used, and shared—all with the encouragement of their loving husbands. All stories are about the hottest wives being pleasured in every way possible, whether by one man or multiple! Learn more: https://sierradumont.com/ Anthology: Get the spicy anthology book! Erotica excerpt from: the charity anthology fiction book Not So Guilty Pleasures: 45+ Filthy Stories for a Cause, ALL PROCEEDS GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE & DISASTER FIRE RELIEF https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology  (any money made from my affiliate link usage to buy the anthology will also be donated to the same charity). It is also in Kindle Unlimited (for a limited time). Not-So-Guilty Pleasures is a charity anthology benefiting World Central Kitchen (for help with the hurricane and other disaster relief). The anthology is only available for a limited time so act now! Enjoy storytelling erotic audio about spicy romance relationships, swingers, hot erotica stories, erotica romance, and self care for you! Take time to pay attention to your mental health sexual health. Pleasure is your birthright! Get Podcast Host Ruan's new spicy open door Romantasy Novella: Overcoming Heartache https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/overcomingheartache FREE TODAY AND TOMORROW ONLY! 4/22/25 AND 4/23/25 GET ALL THE FREE EROTICA FOR TWO DAYS ONLY 4/22-4/23/25: https://storyoriginapp.com/to/g1jlFW1 Ruan's smut, erotica, erotic romance fiction books and audiobooks: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Ruan has been nominated for an ASN Lifestyle Magazine Award for Best Erotic Writer! Vote for Ruan daily starting April 13, 2025 at https://www.asnlifestylemagazineawards.com/2025-top-8-finalist Woman owned bookstore with Ruan's books: get her books and support an indie bookshop! https://www.heabookshop.com/ Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

22 Apr 18min

Ep: 598 From Repression to Expression: A Writer's Journey into Erotic Literature. Guest Bio: Ramone Quides is a renaissance polymath who discovered the joys and fulfillment of creative writing later in life. He enjoys writing diverse, connective stories that elevate and celebrate all the places the unencumbered minds can wander. The array of fictional literary erotica he's dreamt up for your enjoyment are intended to tickle your overt and covert interests and fantasies. His celebrations of varied genders, interests and preferences have been published in: The Big Book of Quickies by Rachel Kramer Bussel (affiliate links for books) https://amzn.to/3Y6zDMQ Erotica For Men: And the Women Who Love Them, Volume II by Rose Caraway https://amzn.to/3Gf93Ln Rosy: A women's health and wellness site that uses erotica as one of their resources to increase sexual desire eLust: A monthly publication with broad-ranging content that includes stories, poetry, advice, reviews, and insights from writers Theo: A site containing stories from romance on up from some of the greatest writers of our generation Stories, blog posts and/or commentary can also be found at ramonequides.com Instagram, BlueSky, Threads and Twitter as @ramonequides Summary: Discover how embracing creativity later in life led Ramone to find his voice through erotic storytelling. In this episode, Ramone shares his transformation from a life of emotional repression to becoming a passionate writer of diverse and healing erotic literature. The conversation explores how societal expectations initially stifled Ramone's self-expression until a pivotal moment in his 40s changed everything. After dedicating a year to creative exploration, he emerged with three distinct stories under a carefully chosen pseudonym, channeling years of "quiet desperation" into empowering narratives. We dive deep into discussions about the intersection of creativity, sexuality, and personal growth. Ramone reveals how his journey has not only enhanced his writing but also deepened his relationship with his partner, leading to more open communication and a flourishing intimate life well into his 60s. Listen now to discover how it's never too late to pursue your passion and find personal freedom through art. Excerpt:  Enjoy an excerpt at the end of the interview from Ramone's story "A Second Chance at Submission" narrated by Ruan Willow. Key Takeaways: • Ramon began writing erotic stories later in life, highlighting that it's never too late to pursue creative passions.   • He views erotic literature as a powerful tool for emotional healing and personal growth, challenging societal norms around sexuality.   • The episode emphasizes midlife as an opportunity for self-acceptance and deeper intimacy, promoting open communication in relationships. Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

18 Apr 1h 30min

Ep 596: The Professor's Forbidden Pet, A Professor Student Age Gap by Ava Kade, narrated by Ruan Willow. A MF, age gap: older man, younger woman, professor-student erotica excerpt, oh the oral description is delish! This! This is SO HOT! One of my faves of the excerpts! Yes please, bring this on! I'm a BIG FAN! That'll wake up a woman's libido in the thought of a heartbeat! About the Author Ava Kade: Ava Kade is a passionate writer of sweet and spicy age gap stories, centered around mature, dominant older men and naughty younger women. A lot of them contain a touch of the forbidden and taboo, everything laced together with lots of romance. Anthology: Get the spicy anthology book! It's ON SALE for only 99 cents right now!!!  Erotica excerpt from: the charity anthology fiction book Not So Guilty Pleasures: 45+ Filthy Stories for a Cause, ALL PROCEEDS GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE & DISASTER FIRE RELIEF https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology  (any money made from my affiliate link usage to buy the anthology will also be donated to the same charity). It is also in Kindle Unlimited (for a limited time). Not-So-Guilty Pleasures is a charity anthology benefiting World Central Kitchen (for help with the hurricane and other disaster relief). The anthology is only available for a limited time so act now! Enjoy storytelling erotic audio about spicy romance relationships, swingers, hot erotica stories, erotica romance, and self care for you! Take time to pay attention to your mental health sexual health. Pleasure is your birthright! Get Podcast Host Ruan's new spicy open door Romantasy Novella: Overcoming Heartache https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/overcomingheartache Ruan's smut, erotica, erotic romance fiction books and audiobooks: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Ruan has been nominated for an ASN Lifestyle Magazine Award for Best Erotic Writer! Vote for Ruan daily starting April 13, 2025 at https://www.asnlifestylemagazineawards.com/2025-top-8-finalist Woman owned bookstore with Ruan's books: get her books and support an indie bookshop! https://www.heabookshop.com/ Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

15 Apr 22min

Ep 595: The Healing Power of Smut, Part 5: Exploring Dark and Taboo Themes in Fiction Can Be Healing For Women with author Stephani Del Rey. Exploring the Empowering Side of Dark Sexual Fantasies. Overall, the discussion explores the nuances of dark/taboo subgenres and the importance of reframing the narratives around them.  About Stephani Del Rey:  Stephani Del Rey loves to write about sexy, independent women who know what they want - especially if it involves being taught a lesson by a LOT of hot, dominant men! She writes MMFM/ gangbang/ reverse harem erotica that features sharing, degradation, erotic humiliation, spanking, light bondage and plenty of edging and dirty talk. Her mission is to deliver on that female submission kink while keeping it fun, trashy and empowering. She lives in the UK, where she dreams of one day having a walk-in wardrobe for her lingerie. Mailing list and get a free book: http://eepurl.com/h_VHrD https://www.amazon.com/stores/Stephani-Del-Rey/author/B0BGYQ7JH6 Shared by the Special Forces An MMFM Humiliation Story (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/42HTFzO Summary: Journey into the complex world of erotic storytelling with UK-based author Stephanie Del Rey, who crafts tales of strong women exploring their submission fantasies. This fascinating discussion delves into how erotic fiction serves as a powerful tool for processing trauma, challenging cultural norms, and reclaiming female sexual agency. The conversation explores controversial themes including the "male gaze," consensual non-consent, and the healing potential of taboo fantasies. Del Rey shares personal insights about how her own experiences shaped her writing, particularly in creating stories where female characters find empowerment through their sexuality while being cherished by protective, dominant partners. Topics: Primal Desires and Submission, Reclaiming Sexuality Through Erotic Fiction, The Objectification of Women in Media and Culture, Empowering Women's Sexuality and Consent, Exploring the Origins and Acceptance of Kinks, Empowering Female Sexuality in Erotica, Exploring Female Sexuality Through Fiction, Exploring Nuanced Perspectives on Kink and Gender, The Appeal of Dominant-Submissive Dynamics and also Humiliation and Degradation Kinks, Navigating Censorship in the Digital Age, The Precarious Nature of Online Content Creation, Reclaiming/redefining the Gangb**g and asking for it: Celebrating Female Pleasure Key Takeaways: • Reclaiming terms like "asking for it" can empower women to explore their desires safely through fantasy, rather than feeling shame. • Fiction allows women to confront their fears around violence and vulnerability, processing these experiences in a controlled setting. • Exploring taboo themes in a fictional context can have a healing potential for women. Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

11 Apr 1h 1min

Episode 594: My Husband Shared Me with His Best Friend, A Hotwife Excerpt by Kassia White, narrated by podcast host Ruan Willow. It's a mega hot MMF threesome pleasure filled scene! About the Author: Kassia White is an author of hotwife erotica. Her books are light on plot but are packed with heat. All the stories feature slutty women eager to be shared by their happy husbands, sometimes with just one man, and other times with oh, so many. Get the spicy anthology book! It's ON SALE for only 99 cents right now!!!  Erotica excerpt from: the charity anthology fiction book Not So Guilty Pleasures: 45+ Filthy Stories for a Cause, ALL PROCEEDS GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE & DISASTER FIRE RELIEF https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology  (any money made from my affiliate link usage to buy the anthology will also be donated to the same charity). It is also in Kindle Unlimited (for a limited time). Not-So-Guilty Pleasures is a charity anthology benefiting World Central Kitchen (for help with the hurricane and other disaster relief). The anthology is only available for a limited time so act now! Enjoy storytelling erotic audio about spicy romance relationships, swingers, hot erotica stories, erotica romance, and self care for you! Take time to pay attention to your mental health sexual health. Pleasure is your birthright! Get Podcast Host Ruan's new spicy open door Romantasy Novella: Overcoming Heartache https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/overcomingheartache Ruan's smut, erotica, erotic romance fiction books and audiobooks: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Ruan has been nominated for an ASN Lifestyle Magazine Award for Best Erotic Writer! Vote for Ruan starting April 13, 2025 at https://www.asnlifestylemagazineawards.com/2025-top-8-finalist Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

10 Apr 18min

Episode 592: How to Please a Shapeshifter in Bed, A MM Erotic Fiction Excerpt by Fleur Foxx from the charity anthology fiction book Not So Guilty Pleasures: 45+ Filthy Stories for a Cause. About the Author: Fleur Foxx writes queer monster erotica and erotic romance. She writes what she likes, which means her stories are a rainbow of monsters and sexualities. Come find out what hides in the dark. ALL PROCEEDS of the sale/KU readings of the anthology GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE & DISASTER FIRE RELIEF https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology  (any money made from my affiliate link usage to buy the anthology will also be donated to the same charity). It is also in Kindle Unlimited (for a limited time). Not-So-Guilty Pleasures is a charity anthology benefiting World Central Kitchen (for help with the hurricane and other disaster relief). Enjoy this erotica excerpt, storytelling via erotic audio about spicy romance relationships, swingers, hot erotica stories, erotica romance, and self care for you! Take time to pay attention to your mental health sexual health. Pleasure is your birthright! Ruan has been nominated for an ASN Lifestyle Magazine Award for Erotic Writer! She's in the top 8! To learn more and vote for her, which she greatly would appreciate!!, visit the ASN Lifestyle Magazine Awards, by the ASN Lifestyle Magazine VOTING: https://www.asnlifestylemagazineawards.com/2025-top-8-finalist https://www.asnlifestylemagazineawards.com/  Voting runs from April 13, 2025 through July 13, 2025 Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

8 Apr 15min

Ep 590: The Healing Power of Smut Part 4: A Transformative Journey Breaking Free from Religious and Societal Constraints, with Guest Chuck Breaking Free: The Healing Power of Erotic Literature Discover how one man's journey from strict Catholic upbringing to embracing erotic storytelling became a path to personal healing and authenticity. In this compelling episode, Chuck opens up about how reading and writing spicy content helped him overcome religious constraints and embrace his true self. Key highlights: - The therapeutic value of erotic literature beyond mere entertainment - Challenging censorship and societal control over sexual expression - The disconnect between romance's popularity and its social stigma - Navigating creative freedom in the digital age - The importance of sexual wellness for mental health - Understanding and embracing female sexuality - The transformative power of authentic storytelling Self-expression, self-care, and self-discovery are an important part of healthy mental health and sexual health. Sexual health IS a part of mental health. The conversation delves deep into the complexities of modern attitudes toward sexuality, personal freedom, and self-expression, while addressing the challenges faced by creators in more conservative communities. Ready to challenge your perspectives on erotic literature and personal freedom? Listen to this thought-provoking episode that bridges the gap between sexuality, storytelling, and self-discovery. Key Takeaways: • Writing erotic content can be a transformative and healing experience, providing meaningful substance beyond just gratuitous sex. • Love, romance, and sexuality are natural and essential parts of the human experience that should not be suppressed or controlled. • Navigating societal norms, personal desires, and creative freedom, especially on online publishing platforms, can be complex. Shownotes by Cleanoice ai. Ruan's Upcoming Release, an Open Door Romantasy Deception's Snare: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/deceptionssnare Listen to the full series: Listen to The Healing Power of Smut, Part 1: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1599808/episodes/16787440  Part 2: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1599808/episodes/16836959 Part 3: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1599808/episodes/16876985 Part 5: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1599808/episodes/16963478 Part 6: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1599808/episodes/17002841 Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

4 Apr 46min