Live IFS22 Mai 2025

477: Kerri A. revisits

🔸 Is Self actually genuinely connecting?
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

If this is a self-like part or Sally, I'm trying not to pull the rug out from under it. I'm standing back, observing, keeping my responses more neutral / hypothetical like “I can imagine, *if* a part is hearing that ‘bring it on’, it might not trust...” I'm seeking input from the target, with the assumption that their potential pushback would verify my own. I could have gone deeper into “feel towards?”, sticking with the method of using the feelings to indicate Self's presence. Not as confident with working backwards from "Self feels x, Self feels y".

Also checking my own bias, don't wanna assume *my* Self will have the same verbiage / pace as caller's Self. I have some crude metrics to use, but if I meet the Buddha, can I say for certain I would recognize him? I can only guide from where I am.

Perhaps (more simply) all of this is just coming from my own protectors. After all, I’ve seen approaches by pros that, were I the client, I know my system would reject as pushy. As a guide, I'm not in a hurry. I'm to serve as a parts-detective, not the parts-police. Maybe I'm just lacking the courage / compassion (or experience) to confidently speak for my concerns.

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