When Self-Care Falls Apart: Navigating BPD Struggles

Ever felt overwhelmed at work? You're not alone! In this episode, Xannie, Georgette, Melanie, André and Raf discuss the challenges of navigating workplace stress when living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Building on our conversation from Wednesday’s episode, the bunch share their raw, personal stories about the unique difficulties they face, including impulsivity, emotional dysregulation, and the struggle to maintain professional boundaries. Whether you're someone who identifies with BPD or a friend or family member trying to support someone who does, this episode offers valuable insights and relatable experiences. Nov 27th we'll be back to share more stories about BPD at work. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________ About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us! ________ Disclaimer: Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

22 Nov 202412min

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can make navigating the workplace especially challenging. In this video, Xannie, Georgette, Melanie, André, and Raf open up about their struggles and triumphs managing BPD on the job. We also explore how BPD affects workplace relationships and share strategies for effectively handling symptoms in professional settings. If you or someone you know is struggling with BPD at work, this video offers valuable insights! Come back on Friday as we continue this topic, with a discussion on how stress affects BPD at work. Link to DEAR MAN https://open.spotify.com/episode/6IKdqVrQWsJ4PcCIWWN54P?si=V1wo-_FCQV6TZR0KKhaTaA Nov 27th we'll be back to share stories about BPD at work. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________ Terms from the episode: 1. Mindfulness: The practice of being fully present in the moment and paying attention to what’s happening right now without judging it. 2. Coping Ahead: Planning and preparing for tough situations by imagining how to handle them and practicing skills in advance. 3. Distress Tolerance: A group of skills that help you handle intense emotions or tough situations without making things worse. These skills focus on surviving the moment until the distress passes. Examples include: radical acceptance, self-soothing and distracting. 4. STOP: A quick strategy for staying calm: - Stop what you're doing. - Take a deep breath. - Observe what's happening inside and around you. - Proceed mindfully with your actions. 5. DEAR MAN: A method for asking for what you need or saying no: - Describe the situation. - Express your feelings. - Assert your request clearly. - Reinforce why it matters. - Mindfully stay calm. - Appear confident. - Negotiate if needed. 6. PLEASE: A way to keep your mind and body balanced: - Accumulate positive emotions. - Build mastery by doing things you’re good at. - Cope ahead for tough situations. - PhysicaL illness: Take care of any health problems. - Eat: Maintain a balanced diet. - Avoid mood-altering substances: Stay away from alcohol or drugs that can make emotions worse. - Sleep: Get enough rest to feel refreshed. - Exercise: Move your body regularly to boost your mood. ________ Chapters: 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:05 - How BPD shows up at work 00:05:01 - Jobs that work for BPD 00:14:34 - BPD x work relationships 00:25:17 - Coping strategies for BPD at work00:38:13 - Outro and credits ________ About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us! ________ Disclaimer: Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

20 Nov 202439min

Xannie and Katja are joined by Kylee  @KyleeRackam  and Jake  @antisocialtheatre  to share impactful relationship stories and how they impact those with personality disorders, focusing on borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic, personality disorder (NPD), antisocial personality disorder (ASPD), and schizotypical personality disorder (STPD). Building on our conversation from Wednesday’s episode ( https://open.spotify.com/episode/6QaZrKZXKn83nyiLnz8v1F?si=M8Cy9-qmSaKaBYDJrMRWVg ), and Friday's episode ( https://open.spotify.com/episode/5pkuGE4t8aZ7u4tk7nYzvA?si=g8VdXOIuRpqHO_dbNfDhVQ ) the bunch open up about the relationships that transformed their understandings of themselves. Whether you're navigating your own journey with BPD or supporting someone who is, this conversation is vital for understanding and healing. Don’t miss out on the truths that could change perceptions and foster empathy. Find more from Kylee:  @KyleeRackam  https://www.instagram.com/kyleerackam_ https://www.tiktok.com/@UClfU4D90xfhPJJqqxjP0wBQ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61554776421760 Find more from Jake:  @antisocialtheatre  https://www.instagram.com/antisocialtheatre Come back on Friday as we continue this topic, with a discussion on personality disorder stigma, and Sunday, as we wrap up this topic sharing stories of important relationships that have taught us something about our PDs. Nov 20th we'll be back with a new discussion topic, BPD at Work. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________ About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us! ________ Disclaimer: Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

17 Nov 20248min

Can the labels we wear change the way we see ourselves and each other? In this episode, Xannie and Katja are joined by Kylee and Jake to discuss societal stigma surrounding personality disorders, focusing on borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic, personality disorder (NPD), antisocial personality disorder (ASPD), and schizotypical personality disorder (STPD). Building on our conversation from Wednesday’s episode (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4MbChkoc1HI), the bunch share their experiences with stigma, with subtopics including: media presentations of personality disorders, romanticizing PDs, and the disparity in tone used to talk about different PDs. Whether you're navigating your own journey with BPD or supporting someone who is, this conversation is vital for understanding and healing. Don’t miss out on the truths that could change perceptions and foster empathy.Find more from Kylee: @KyleeRackam https://www.instagram.com/kyleerackam_https://www.tiktok.com/@UClfU4D90xfhPJJqqxjP0wBQ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61554776421760Find more from Jake: @antisocialtheatre https://www.instagram.com/antisocialtheatreCome back on Friday as we continue this topic, with a discussion on personality disorder stigma, and Sunday, as we wrap up this topic sharing stories of important relationships that have taught us something about our PDs. Nov 20th we'll be back with a new discussion topic, BPD at Work. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________References:On ASPD and Anxiety: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0165178102003207________ About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us! ________ Disclaimer: Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

15 Nov 202423min

When you're living with both BPD and another personality disorder, the world can feel overwhelming—like you're constantly navigating a maze with no clear way out. In this episode, Xannie and Katja are joined by guests Kylee and Jake to explore the complex and often misunderstood experience of living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) alongside another personality disorder. Our guests open up about the unique challenges of managing multiple diagnoses, from navigating different forms of self expression to building relationships with others who may not fully understand their struggles. We'll explore how these overlapping disorders impact day-to-day life, mental health, and relationships, offering honest insights for coping. Whether you're living with BPD, another personality disorder, or you support someone who is, this episode is packed with valuable perspectives and tips for managing your mental health journey. Find more from Kylee: @KyleeRackam  https://www.instagram.com/kyleerackam_https://www.tiktok.com/ @KyleeRackam  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61554776421760 Find more from Jake: @antisocialtheatre  https://www.instagram.com/antisocialtheatre Come back on Friday as we continue this topic, with a discussion on personality disorder stigma, and Sunday, as we wrap up this topic sharing stories of important relationships that have taught us something about our PDs. Nov 20th we'll be back with a new discussion on dealing with BPD at work! Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch __________ *CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy): A type of therapy that helps people change negative thoughts and behaviors to improve their feelings and mental health. *DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy): A therapy that teaches skills to manage emotions and improve relationships, often used for people with intense feelings. *Shadow Work: The process of exploring the hidden or ignored parts of ourselves to understand and accept our full personality, including our flaws. *Inner Child Healing: A method that helps people connect with and heal their younger selves to overcome past hurts and emotional pain. *Psychodynamic Therapy: A therapy that looks at how past experiences and unconscious thoughts affect our current feelings and behavior. *Somatic Healing: A healing approach focusing on the mind-body connection, helping individuals release stress and trauma stored in their bodies. *EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing): A therapy that helps people heal from traumatic memories by using eye movements or other techniques to process those memories. ________ Chapters 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:08 - BPD, NPD, ASPD and STPD 00:01:42 - Differentiating NPD from BPD 00:02:21 - BPD vs NPD Split 00:03:17 - NPD Split Triggers 00:03:50 - Differentiating ASPD from BPD 00:05:08 - ASPD Resentment 00:06:15 - Differentiating STPD from BPD 00:06:55 - BPD vs STPD Paranoia 00:08:30 - NPD Life Challenges 00:10:35 - ASPD Life Challenges 00:13:12 -STPD Life Challenges 00:15:52 - STPD Magical Thinking 00:18:57 - NPD, ASPD, STPD vs Relationship 00:26:44 - Therapy/ Treatment 00:31:44 - Strengths 00:34:59 - How the PD Community Can Support Eachother 00:37:52 - Outro ________ Disclaimer: Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

13 Nov 202439min

In this episode, Xannie, Mo, Solène, Jack and Darren confront some of the mean comments we've received from viewers. Join us as we react to these challenging remarks about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and share our thoughts on the stigma that often surrounds our experiences.While these comments can be hurtful, we believe in turning negativity into strength. Together, we’ll unpack these misconceptions, highlight the realities of living with BPD, and show that we can stand strong in the face of judgment. This episode is all about resilience, empowerment, and finding humor even in tough situations. Whether you’re in recovery or looking to understand more about BPD, we invite you to join the conversation and stand with us against stigma. 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________ About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us! ________ Disclaimer: Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

11 Nov 202429min

What happens when your childhood wounds never heal? In this episode, Xannie, Georgette, Céline, Madhurima, Jack and Hak Ja explore the roots of borderline personality disorder (BPD) and how growing up with unmet emotional needs, difficult family dynamics, and trauma shaped their lives. Building on our conversation from Wednesday’s episode, we share personal stories of feeling out of place, shuffled around, and struggling to transition from adolescence to adulthood. If you've ever questioned why you feel so deeply or why you can't shake certain scars, this conversation will resonate. Join us as we unpack the painful experiences that still echo in adulthood and share our journeys toward understanding and healing. Nov 23th we'll be back with a new discussion topic, Living with more than one personality disorder. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________ About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us! ________ Disclaimer: Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

8 Nov 202416min

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can be especially challenging for teens as they navigate emotions, relationships, and the pressures of adolescence. In this video, Xannie, Georgette, Céline, Madhurima, Jack and Hak Ja share their earliest memories of BPD symptoms during teenage years. We also discuss the relationships most impacted by BPD in adolescence, and the advice we wish we could give to our teenage selves! If you or someone you know is struggling with BPD in their teenage years, this video offers valuable insights for navigating this challenging period. Come back on Friday as we wrap up this topic, with a discussion on childhood events we believe contributed to developing BPD Nov 13th we'll be back with a new discussion on what it's like to live with more than one personality disorder. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________ Chapters: 00:00:00 - Intro 00:00:45 - Early signs and symptoms of BPD 00:13:11 - Relationships most impacted by BPD in teen years 00:25:05 - Advice for teens with BPD 00:31:48 - Outro ________ About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us! ________ Disclaimer: Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

6 Nov 202433min