Why Your Voice is Your Secret Pleasure Tool

Why Your Voice is Your Secret Pleasure Tool

In this intimate episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily teams up with Dr. Scott Lyons, a licensed holistic psychologist and body-based trauma expert, to explore how vocalizing pleasure can transform your intimate experiences. From a candid discussion about their couples massage experience in Vegas to practical advice on overcoming sexual silence, this episode reveals why making authentic sounds during sex creates deeper connection and more intense pleasure. We dive into the psychology behind sexual silence, examining how childhood conditioning, shame, and societal expectations keep us quiet when we should be expressing ourselves. Dr. Scott explains the nervous system science behind vocalization, including how making sounds stimulates the vagus nerve and helps regulate our bodies during intimate moments. We also tackle the difference between authentic pleasure sounds and performative moaning influenced by porn culture. This episode addresses common concerns like being too loud with roommates or kids in the house, offers practical exercises for gradually increasing your vocal expression, and explores how sound creates crucial feedback loops between partners. Whether you're naturally quiet or overly performative, you'll learn how to find your authentic voice of pleasure. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - The Vegas Massage Story: Learning from Authentic Sound 03:00:00 - Why We Stay Silent During Pleasure 06:41:00 - Men, Masturbation & the Culture of Quiet Sex 08:26:00 - Sound as Nervous System Regulation 11:07:00 - Authentic vs. Performative Vocalization 15:38:00 - The Sixth Limb: Your Voice as Extension of Your Body 18:06:00 - Shame, Control & Sexual Expression 23:10:00 - Practical Exercises: Touch for Pleasure Practice 28:14:00 - Sensory Play & Exploration 30:04:00 - Parents, Kids & Sexual Noise Concerns 33:08:00 - The 10% Challenge: Starting Small Join Dr. Emily and Dr. Scott as they share personal insights and professional expertise on breaking through sexual silence to unlock deeper pleasure and connection. This episode includes a live demonstration and practical homework to help you discover your authentic voice of pleasure. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

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23 Jan 201245min

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Emily prepares a speech for a Singles Convention and Menace is resentful of hot women (no surprise here). How Emily handles Valentines Day, "expiration dating", and teasing your partner sexually without being annoying. Emily talks about how long foreplay should last and why it’s important. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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