Bisexual Killjoy28 Mai 2025

S3E7: Too Much & Never Enough: Being a Bi+ Woman

Welcome back to Bisexual Killjoy! What does it mean to become a bi+ woman in a world that says you’re either too much or not enough? In this episode, we dive deep into the messiness of womanhood, gender socialization, and bi+ identity. Grounded in Simone de Beauvoir’s iconic quote, “One is not born, but rather becomes, woman,” we unpack the violence of gender norms, internalized misogyny, femmephobia, and the social construction of sex itself.

We talk about the personal and political stakes of being bi+ and femme in a world that demands your compliance—and punishes your refusal. From the erasure of bi+ women in relationships to survival strategies shaped by patriarchy, this conversation is a powerful reminder that womanhood isn’t a fixed truth; it’s a battlefield of expectations, agency, and becoming.

Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by subscribing to our Substack, joining our Patreon, and following us on Instagram.

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Resources

Beauvoir, Simone de. The Second Sex. Vintage Classics, 2015.
Stone, Alison. An Introduction to Feminist Philosophy. Polity Press, 2007.
Ward, Jane. The Tragedy of Heterosexuality. NYU Press, 2020.

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S5E2: Bi+ Single & Ready to Mingle

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S4E8: Living in the Future with Give It To Me Bi

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