CODY JEFFERSON | Build a Life That Calls to You

If you’ve ever heard the dreaded words, “I love you but I am not in love with you,” or, more bluntly, “I want a divorce,” you know what follows is a mental and emotional rollercoaster of epic proportion. But what you probably don’t know is what to do if that day comes and what your rights might be when it comes to protecting yourself, your money, and your relationship with your children. My guest today, Attorney David Pissara, has made it his life’s work to help men navigate what is likely the most difficult part of his life – post-divorce. Today, we talk about how to avoid conflict during these times while simultaneously protecting your rights, the emotional manipulation many men face and how to confront it, whether or not the family court system is biased and what to expect when dealing with the courts, what indicators to be on the lookout for you to recognize if a divorce is pending, and even how AI may change family law. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:17 – Introduction and Context 01:05 – Why Men Struggle in Divorce 02:58 – Men, Vulnerability, and Leadership 08:33 – Marriage as a Contract 12:37 – The Question of Fairness in Divorce Settlements 17:01 – What Men Should Look for in Women 20:18 – Predictors of Divorce and Commitment 21:27 – The Danger of Social Isolation 25:51 – Balancing Happiness and Sacrifice 28:15 – Feminism, Disney, and Unrealistic Expectations 31:12 – Dating Standards and Preferences 36:12 – The Dreaded “I Want a Divorce” Moment 37:00 – How Women Strategize Divorce 39:23 – Abuse vs. Violence in Relationships 43:40 – How Courts Handle Restraining Orders 46:06 – Why Men Rarely File Restraining Orders 49:40 – Civil vs. High-Conflict Divorces 52:02 – Should Men Stay or Leave the House? 54:38 – Resources for Fathers in Custody Battles 57:46 – Strategies for High-Conflict Personalities 59:39 – No-Fault Divorce and Its Impact 01:04:00 – Handling Loans and Slander in Divorce 01:06:52 – Bias in Family Courts and AI Judges 01:09:59 – Parental Alienation and Legal Strategy 01:11:00 – Wrap-Up and Post-Show Instructions Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

9 Sep 1h 12min

In this Friday Field Notes episode, Ryan Michler breaks down what it really means to be vulnerable “like a man.” He challenges the popular narrative that vulnerability is strength in itself and instead explains how it should be used as a tool for growth. Ryan outlines why discernment matters, how goals must shape openness, and why solutions must accompany weakness. Listeners will walk away with a sharper, more practical understanding of vulnerability—stripped of fluff and grounded in responsibility. This episode is a call for men to embrace honesty without falling into the trap of empty exposure. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Rethinking vulnerability 02:30 – Vulnerability as weakness 04:40 – Exercising discernment 09:00 – Setting goals for openness 11:20 – Pairing vulnerability with solutions 18:00 – Vulnerability plus solutions equals results 20:20 – Iron Council promotion 22:45 – Closing thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

5 Sep 24min

In this Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan Michler dives into daily efficiencies, planning systems, and the power of structure in building a productive life. He answers listener questions on balancing flexibility with discipline, handling unexpected events, creating rituals around planning, and becoming an early riser. Ryan also shares practical tactics like using buffers, after-action reviews, and categorizing different types of days to stay consistent and effective. Whether you’re aiming for better routines or long-term growth, this conversation offers actionable strategies you can apply immediately. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Introduction and episode setup 02:14 – Balancing flexibility and structure 06:59 – Consistency with non-traditional work schedules 11:44 – Daily tactics for continual growth 16:30 – Handling the unexpected in planning 21:10 – Becoming an early riser 25:50 – Making daily planning a ritual 33:57 – Closing thoughts and resources Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

3 Sep 34min

Over time, it’s likely that you have drifted off course. Like a boat without a navigator, it’s easy to let the current of reality, overwhelm, and frustration take you off course. My guest today, Larry Hagner has been a father for over two decades and knows firsthand what the drift looks like as a dad and how to steer yourself back on course. Today, we talk about staying awake and vigilant when it comes to leading your wife and kids, the first “domino” to fall before things go horribly wrong, how to get your wife back on course if she starts to drift, in what ways do you become lethargic, monotonous, and bland in your life (and, what to do about it), and learning to build “conversations of curiosity.” SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and Catching Up 00:11 - Larry’s Knee Injury Discussion 04:33 - The Forge Event Recap 04:57 - The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood Book Launch 07:47 - Understanding the Drift 09:17 - Introducing Lance: The Avatar of the Drift 15:30 - Helping Your Spouse Overcome the Drift 16:12 - Getting Out of the Drift as a Man 23:51 - Coaching Consistency in Men 29:57 - Being a Man of Your Word 31:02 - Motivating Your Wife Respectfully 36:56 - Impact of Kids on Relationships 38:02 - Motivating and Guiding Children 41:50 - Creating Psychological Safety for Kids 47:22 - Building Trust Through Questions 53:30 - Navigating Single Fatherhood 55:09 - Finding Common Ground with Your Child 59:35 - Connecting with Larry and The Forge Event Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

2 Sep 1h 11min

In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler explores how men can confront and overcome betrayal in both personal and professional life. Drawing from his own recent experiences, Ryan offers practical strategies and hard-earned insights to help men navigate betrayal with strength, clarity, and integrity. He emphasizes respect, self-control, and learning valuable lessons rather than succumbing to anger or despair. This episode is a call for men to rise above hardship, establish healthy boundaries, and move forward with resilience and purpose. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Introduction 02:15 – Facing betrayal in life and business 04:37 – Responding with respect and rationality 06:50 – Treating innocent bystanders gracefully 09:12 – Learning the lessons from betrayal 11:32 – Recognizing red flags early 13:54 – Building strong boundaries 18:43 – Final thoughts and encouragement Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

29 Aug 21min

Join Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen in this engaging AMA episode of the Order of Man podcast. They kick off with light-hearted banter on Labor Day plans and "fake holidays," then dive into a headline sparking debate: Cracker Barrel's logo change and why people fixate on trivial issues.  Listener questions cover helping kids handle bullies, pacing new relationships, picky eaters, prioritizing battle plan tactics, monetizing podcasts, hard-fought life lessons, and staying focused amid chaos. Packed with practical advice on masculinity, family, and self-improvement. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Opening Banter and Setup 00:58 - Weekend Plans and Labor Day Discussion 02:45 - Headline: Cracker Barrel Logo Controversy 11:50 - Helping Kids Navigate Bullies 25:11 - Pacing a New Relationship 37:23 - Dealing with Picky Eaters 40:38 - Prioritizing Battle Plan Tactics 43:23 - Monetizing Podcasts and Iron Council Origins 45:45 - Biggest Hard-Fought Lessons 01:07:22 - Maintaining Focus in Crises 01:21:49 - Episode Wrap-Up and Calls to Action Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

27 Aug 1h 22min

You ever seen an old house and think, “Man, I’d love to fix that up.”? Or, an old truck, and imagine the day where you and your children would drive around in that thing? Or, maybe an old project you’ve been meaning to finish but never got around to it? My guest today, Tye Nichols, feels the same way. In fact, he’s invested thousands of his own money to put into an abandoned golf course he’s had visions of reviving. Today, we talk about his dream of reviving his golf course, Fairway Fields. We talk about finally believing in yourself, casting vision so other people will believe in you, overcoming doubters on your path, what to do when times get tough, and whether or not to “sell out” when it comes to chasing a dream. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Catching Up After Years 01:00 – Family Life and Moving Back to Maine 02:50 – Why Buy an Abandoned Golf Course? 05:55 – Building Trust and Taking Advice from the Right People 07:15 – Ordinary vs. Extraordinary 09:20 – Lessons from Jocko and Realizing People Are Just People 13:10 – Humility, Work Ethic, and Earning Opportunities 16:50 – Big Dreams for Fairway Fields 19:30 – Reimagining a Rural Golf Course 24:30 – Taming Nature and Learning the Hard Way 26:45 – Local Support and Community Excitement 28:30 – Making Ends Meet While Building a Dream 32:40 – Long-Term Vision and Scaling Up 34:40 – Overcoming Doubts and Finding True Commitment 37:10 – Support from His Wife and Family 39:25 – Turning Away from a Rough Past 41:00 – Rock Bottom and Deciding to Change 42:30 – Why Strangers Believe in His Vision 45:55 – People Want to Support, Not Tear You Down 47:30 – Advice for Men with Big Dreams 49:30 – Where to Connect with Tye Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

26 Aug 56min

In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler explores the crucial question of how to initiate boys into manhood. Drawing from personal experience as a father and mentor, Ryan outlines key principles such as separation, challenge, risk, and meaning that help shape rites of passage. He emphasizes the importance of deliberate and intentional practices for raising boys into strong, capable men—especially in a society that often resists such growth. This episode offers fathers, mentors, and even single mothers clear considerations for guiding the next generation of men. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:40 – The challenge of raising boys in today’s culture 03:00 – Separation from women in rites of passage 05:27 – Building challenge and risk into the process 07:50 – Age-based milestones for boys 10:05 – Responsibility, puberty, and independence 12:21 – Honoring achievements with meaning 14:33 – Public celebration and recognition 16:58 – Marking and family mottos 19:16 – Reintroduction as young men 21:37 – Course promotion and final thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

22 Aug 23min