#194: When You Don’t Feel Like a Priority in Your Relationship
On Attachment24 Jun 2025

#194: When You Don’t Feel Like a Priority in Your Relationship

If you often feel like you're fighting for a place in your partner’s life—like you’re always waiting to be chosen or noticed—this episode is for you.

This is one of the most common experiences for people with anxious attachment: that persistent, painful feeling of being sidelined. Of giving so much, while wondering if you even matter to the person you love. And when that becomes a pattern, it can quietly erode your sense of self-worth.

In this episode, I’m unpacking:

  • Why anxiously attached people are so sensitive to feeling deprioritised
  • How this dynamic often plays out in anxious-avoidant relationships
  • The emotional cost of constantly striving to be chosen
  • What you can focus on to reclaim your power and stop abandoning yourself in the process

Whether you’re currently in a relationship or reflecting on a past one, this conversation will help you make sense of what’s happening and offer practical ways to move forward with more clarity, dignity, and self-trust.

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