using radically open dialectical behavior therapy (RO DBT) to overcome issues with overcontrol

Are you known for always doing things “right,” following the rules, and keeping your emotions in check? If so, you may have what’s known as an Overcontrolled style of coping. People with this temperament are highly detail-oriented, vigilant to potential threats, and possess strong inhibitory control—the ability to hold back impulses and behaviors. On the outside, they often appear “high-functioning,” but beneath the surface, they may feel isolated, rigid, and unseen, with their struggles often going unnoticed.

In today’s episode, I’m joined by Larry Dahmer, a psychological associate specializing in Radically Open Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (RO-DBT), a therapeutic approach designed to support individuals with Overcontrolled coping styles. Larry shares insights into this groundbreaking therapy, explaining how it differs from standard DBT and why it can be transformative for those who feel stuck in cycles of perfectionism and emotional restraint.

We explore topics like:

• What RO-DBT is and how it helps those with emotional overcontrol
• The unique role of self-inquiry in RO-DBT and how it fosters flexibility and openness
• Why Western society often encourages emotional overcontrol, and how this can lead to loneliness and disconnection
• Embracing emotions like hopelessness and anxiety as teachers rather than enemies
• Inspiring stories of change from Larry’s RO-DBT clients

If you or someone you know feels pressured to always “hold it together” but struggles to connect authentically with others, this episode offers a compassionate look at the Overcontrolled coping style and introduces tools for living with greater openness and fulfillment.

Learn more about RO-DBT at https://www.radicallyopen.net/

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Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional.

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