Should I Delete That?29 Jun 2025

Britain’s Oldest Dominatrix: “It’s far more than whips and chains…”

Today, we're stepping into the world of BDSM...

We’re joined by the brilliant Sherry Lever, who is known professionally as Mistress Sofia. She is a 74-year-old grandmother who just so happens to be Britain’s oldest professional dominatrix.

From the outside, the world of BDSM might seem intimidating… and we certainly had a lot to learn. But Sherry breaks down the myths for us, highlighting the importance of communication, consent and boundaries within her work, to reveal the more emotional side of being a dominatrix.

She even introduced us to a very different kind of CBT (and it’s not the type your therapist offers...)

As self-confessed members of the vanilla population, we came away from this conversation with our eyes opened and our assumptions challenged - we hope you find it as fascinating as we did!

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You can read more about Sherry’s work at www.mistress-sofia.co.uk

Sherry’s book From “The Mrs” to Dominatrix - is available now digitally and as an audiobook

If you'd like to get in touch you can email us on shouldideletethatpod@gmail.com

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