Be Positively Selfish
This audio was recorded in 2006, long before Hijackals became Dr. Shaler's focus. Rethinking Selfishness: "What if I told you that I now value selfishness? Would that be shocking? Not only do I value ...
22 Apr 202420min
DRAMA-DUMPING: The #1 Thing NOT TO DO When Meeting a Person for the First Time
Whether you're looking for a new friend or a potential new relationship, you don't want to be trauma dumping. When you let your whole story fly, someone else is likely to get crushed by it.Out of the ...
12 Mar 202433min
Expecting Emotional Maturity from a Narcissist? Don't Hold Your Breath!!!
SOOO frustrating! You hoped for a partner, parent, sibling, or adult child with whom you could communicate, collaborate, and co-operate, but no. You live most of the time with q tiresome toddler or mi...
5 Mar 202427min
Narcissists Make OUTRAGEOUS ASKS. Learn to say NO,
Narcissists ask for too much...and they expect to get it. It's essential to hear that a question is outrageous so you can respond differently. If you've been with a Hijackal for too long, you may have...
27 Feb 202443min
Standing Up to Narcissistic Intimidation -Here's How!
Being with a narcissistic person is scary, right? You are usually wrong...even when you're right!. You never know what mood they'll be in. They lie, gaslight, rage, and fall silent. They are intimidat...
20 Feb 202446min
How Being the Golden Child In the Family Hurts You
Can't do anything wrong? Get away with nonsense? Get extra goodies? Attention? Time?Might sound good but it can get old fast and leave you with very poor self-esteem and a lack of identity. Have a sib...
13 Feb 202434min
It's Smart to Stop Trying to Please a Narcissist
Narcissists love it when you run after their approval. You hope to explain yourself and be heard; they hope to explain you away. In this episode are five iron-clad reasons to not even try to please a ...
6 Feb 202435min
STOP OVERSHARING. It's dangerous.
You want someone--at least one someone--to hear you, see you, believe you. So you share. Sadly, that often turns into oversharing, leaving you a little red-faced. if you fully embarrassed a little lat...
9 Jan 202434min
