How to Be the Parent You Never Had (And Why It’s the Hardest—and Most Important—Work You’ll Ever Do)
After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings9 Jul 2025

How to Be the Parent You Never Had (And Why It’s the Hardest—and Most Important—Work You’ll Ever Do)

If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why am I so triggered by my child’s emotions?” “Why does this feel harder for me than it does for everyone else?” Or “How do I raise emotionally healthy kids… when no one taught me how?” This episode is for you. Kristin and Deena go beneath the surface of parenting and into the work most of us were never taught to do: regulating, repairing, and reparenting yourself while raising your child.

You’ll learn:

  • The real reason parenting feels so hard (it’s not you - it’s your nervous system)
  • The science behind regulation and how to actually build it in real time
  • What generational healing looks and feels like - in messy, everyday moments
  • Why grief is a part of parenting when you’re doing it differently than you were parented
  • The 4 tools to start breaking cycles, even when you’re overwhelmed


This is the episode that helps you understand yourself. And when you understand yourself, you stop blaming yourself. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be the parent you needed.


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