58: What Does It Mean to Be Visible? Being Out and Open as Polyamorous

At the time of recording this episode, it’s the Week of Visibility for Non-Monogamy — July 7–13, 2025. This global campaign and week of action, created by Open Love NY, celebrates the many ways people love, connect, and relate outside of monogamy—including polyamory, open relationships, relationship anarchy, swinging, and more.

The Week of Visibility exists to:

• Celebrate diverse relationship structures (because monogamy is actually the minority—both globally and across human history),
• Challenge stigma and misconceptions (we’re not perverts, immature, or avoidant, thank you very much),
• Promote inclusion in media, healthcare, education, and law,
• And Uplift marginalized voices, especially queer, trans, BIPOC, and disabled folks whose experience of non-monogamy is often erased or misunderstood.

In this episode, we explore what it means to be visible as people who practice consensual non-monogamy. We reflect on our own experiences around coming out—Tara shares in detail what it was like to come out as non-monogamous to her family, why it mattered, how we prepared, what happened, and how it’s going now. André shares about coming out to his mother—and her openness to the idea and her love.

We also walk through each day’s theme from the Week of Visibility: History & Culture, Identity & Inclusion, Myths & Misconceptions, Public & Private, Law & Advocacy, and Integration & Reflection.

For each, we offer personal reflections and suggest actions you can take to explore what visibility looks like for you—whether that means being out and proud, private and processing, or somewhere in between.

💜 IMPORTANT NOTE:We’re offering visibility as an invitation, not a prescription.Visibility is powerful—but it’s not always accessible or safe. You are allowed to choose what’s right for you.

🔗 Mentioned in the Show:

• Learn more and participate in the Week of Visibility:⁠https://www.weekofvisibility.com⁠
• Share your story anonymously (or publicly):⁠https://www.weekofvisibility.com/shareyourstory⁠
• Episode 7: How We Love: What Style of Non-Monogamy is for Me - ⁠https://open.spotify.com/episode/2wQiiMrHCFltYorI7bdEGs?si=TBCGeov_R1qUiuE2cEabsg⁠ (this has a link to download a free worksheet)
• Episode 40: Debunking Common Myths about Polyamory ⁠https://open.spotify.com/episode/0rst1t9Jv2x6xlgkJE2fYP?si=dOKRcCONQxW_k1E8xTdBCA⁠
• Learn more about our Poly Newbies Digital Course and get it for the special Week of Visibility price - ⁠https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer⁠
• Map of Non-Monogamy - Franklin Veaux - ⁠https://blog.franklinveaux.com/2017/12/an-update-to-the-map-of-non-monogamy/⁠

📝 Connect with Us

We’re Tara & André—coaches, educators, and polyamory advocates helping people create secure, satisfying, and sexy non-monogamous relationships.

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