Chasing a Fantasy
Confidence13 Jul 2025

Chasing a Fantasy

I took this solo trip thinking it would be like a peaceful little reset. But instead, it turned into so much more. This emotional rollercoaster cracked me open in a way I didn’t expect. I talk about what it was like being isolated, completely surrounded by people, having to surrender to all the anxiety and loneliness, and it honestly changed everything for me. As I sat there with all these feelings and finally let them go, something insane happened! This one moment forced me to look at the relationship I was already in and face some hard-ass questions: Am I in this because it feels good and safe, or am I avoiding the truth that it’s not actually what I want? I'll be honest, this part of the story gets messy, but I guess that is for you to judge...


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Chapters

00:00 An Avoidant Takes a Solo Trip (A Wild Ride)

1:04:55 Not Holding Guilt After Showing Up Anxious in Your Relationship

Episoder(123)

Self Sacrifice

Self Sacrifice

What's more important your goals or your peace? Do you feel you can only have one or the other? Today I attack the difference between wanting and needing something, and the desire for success/relation...

22 Mar 1h 1min

Fear of Being Perceived

Fear of Being Perceived

You don’t just want a relationship … you want a relationship with someone attractive, with solid values, who can actually meet you where you are. If you want that type of love you need to have a level...

15 Mar 1h 8min

No More Reassurance

No More Reassurance

I was definitely yelling a little bit this episode, but sometimes you guys like that shit. I share a lot of great nuggets about living in the now and understanding how our mental fantasies keep us tra...

8 Mar 1h 4min

Dragging Yourself

Dragging Yourself

I used to feel so anxious and insecure. My life was filled with drama, but now I'm realizing it's hard to find many moments when I don't feel peace. In this episode, I'll talk about how every struggle...

1 Mar 1h 13min

Nothing to Prove

Nothing to Prove

In this episode, we're going to start surface level, and then we're going to get deep. I start by talking about leaving corporate life and never looking back, then I'll reflect on a question about wha...

22 Feb 1h

Disturbing Your Peace

Disturbing Your Peace

What do you want? Not on the surface, I'm talking deep in your soul... In this episode, I'll talk about the uncomfortable introspection of being alone with yourself, how love is confused with attentio...

15 Feb 1h 3min

Dysregulated

Dysregulated

She apologized for not texting me back, then didn't text me back at all. In this episode, I get into what happens when someone you're down for gets inconsistent and why your reaction to it matters mor...

8 Feb 1h 1min

Waiting for Her

Waiting for Her

A girl didn't text me back for 12 hours, and my stomach dropped. In this episode, I get raw about the self-doubt that creeps in when I put myself out there, and why the smallest rejection can trigger ...

1 Feb 1h 9min

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