NICK O'KELLY | Confronting the Stigma of Men’s Mental Health

I’ve made it a personal rule, when I’m offended, to chalk it up to people’s inability to communicate effectively. It’s proven to be useful and, typically, correct. But how can the activity we engage in more than anything else (with the exception of sleep) be something so many men are horribly deficient with? That’s a question my guest, Jefferson Fisher, has spend decades understanding and, over the last several years, teaching over 10,000,000 of his social media followers how to address. Today Jefferson and I talk about avoiding miscommunication, how to be assertive in communication – but not an asshole, when diplomacy and advocacy connect and contradict, why learning not to, “take the bait” of others will serve you, learning the rules of the communication game, and why control, confidence, and connection will set you apart. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS - (00:00) Episode Intro - (03:40) Effective Communication and Assertive Conversations - (18:10) Direct Communication for Difficult Conversations - (22:48) Respectful and Considerate Communication Skills - (34:09) Navigating Egos in Professional Interactions - (46:16) Personal Rules and Self-Advocacy in Communication - (55:04) Parenting and Professional Likability - (01:00:09) Authentic Communication and Self-Evaluation - (01:09:38) Podcast Connection and Shared Mindset Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

29 Okt 20241h 13min

Unlock the keys to unshakable confidence and self-assurance in this episode of Friday Field Notes, where Ryan Michlers tells us how to harness the power of self-validation over external approval. Discover the profound impact of honoring personal commitments and how they lay the foundation for integrity and resilience, propelling you toward genuine influence and opportunity. Ryan deep dives into the importance of understanding the motives behind your successes and the true value of building confidence through self-awareness and introspection.  Expect actionable insights that will help you reflect on your journey and steer it toward self-growth and improvement. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS (00:00) Episode Intro (00:50) Building Confidence and Security as Men (15:21) Strengthening Confidence and Security (22:43) MensForge Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

25 Okt 202424min

This Ask Me Anything episode dives into critical themes of election rigging, the burden of owning unnecessary stuff, and showing up powerfully. Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen explore how misleading FBI crime statistics and media manipulation erode public trust, impacting political narratives and elections.  Transparency and active participation are essential in fighting this, and they challenge listeners to engage fully in the democratic process. Personal growth is also discussed, emphasizing that investing in experiences, relationships, and self-improvement leads to deeper fulfillment than material possessions.  From political engagement to simplifying life and focusing on what truly matters, Ryan and Kipp encourage everyone to take action and commit to their personal and societal roles with integrity. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS (00:00) Episode Intro (00:42) Trust, Transparency, and Manipulation   (10:47) Importance of Political Involvement   (17:38) Interview Preparation and Taking Initiative   (26:04) National Sovereignty and Financial Control   (38:48) Commitment and Progress in Life   (45:09) Investments in Fulfillment and Happiness   (54:54) Inclusivity in the Iron Council   (01:04:11) Men's Forge Collaboration Event Announcement Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

23 Okt 20241h 6min

Many of us have been accused of perpetuating the concept of male privilege and male power. Heaven forbid a man uses his God-given talents and abilities to lift his people up. But too many misguided and damaged souls tend to see only the worst parts of the men in their vicinity or, on social media and in the bright light of the entertainment industry. Those men, in no way, are indicative of the general consensus of men and, yet, many still view men as the premier problem in society today. My guest today, Dr. Warren Farrell, helps unpack why that is not the case and, if anything how genuine men are the cure to many of the ailments of modern times. We talk about why “men’s issues” are not just men’s issues, the differences in what language men and women speak, the male equivalents of the feminist movement, why men are more interested in garnering respect than love, the dreaded “V-word” (vulnerability), and 6 mindsets to form powerful connections between men and women.  SHOW HIGHLIGHTS (00:00) Episode Intro (04:10) The Boy Crisis and Male Identity   (14:54) Reframing Power and Responsibility in Men   (29:18) Gender Dynamics in Communication and Relationships   (41:47) Improving Communication in Relationships   (53:10) The Art of Non-Defensive Communication   (01:04:01) Deepening Love Through Relationship Practices   (01:13:16) Enhancing Relationships Through Active Listening Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

22 Okt 20241h 19min

Unlock the secret to choosing battles that truly matter and become the hero of your own story. In this week's Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler explores the powerful notion of being "anxiously engaged in the fight," inspired by Mormon doctrine, and how it can guide us in aligning our efforts with personal beliefs and societal impact. Discover five essential strategies to ensure your fight is both meaningful and successful, as we discuss the concept of personal sovereignty and the pursuit of worthy causes.  Hear Ryan's personal anecdotes that illustrate the power of enlisting allies who believe in you, reinforcing the significance of support systems in the battles you choose to engage in. Tune in for an inspiring episode filled with insights that will empower you to tackle your chosen battles with clarity and conviction. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS (00:42) Episode Intro (00:42) Anxiously Engaged (14:32) Battle Strategy and Allies in Victory Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

18 Okt 202426min

In an era of manipulated narratives, skepticism towards polling reliability is crucial, urging us to make informed voting decisions based on what matters. We encourage seeking information from trusted sources while avoiding mainstream distractions, inspired by figures like RFK, Tulsi Gabbard, and Elon Musk.  Shifting focus, we delve into the art of storytelling and the importance of preserving family legacies, especially narratives tied to significant historical events like World War II. By documenting these stories, we aim to inspire future generations to connect with their roots. Additionally, we explore personal growth through evolving goals and embracing challenges, highlighting Covey's principles on productivity. We stress adaptability and the importance of viewing challenges as opportunities for growth, and overcoming obstacles. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS (00:00) Episode Intro   (00:38) Importance of Staying Informed and Voting   (10:43) Reflecting on Family Legacies and Growth   (22:04) Evolving Goals and Personal Growth   (27:28) Overcoming Organizational Hurdles for Success   (31:18) Embracing Unreasonable Actions for Growth   (34:57) Personal Growth and Embracing Transformation   (41:53) Embracing Growth Through Challenges   (56:05) Leadership, Success, and Personal Growth   (01:04:55) Wedding Stress and Post-Workout Nutrition Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

16 Okt 20241h 13min

Take a quick look around you and you’ll easily see the degradation of the family, the undermining of both masculinity and femininity, the perversion of virtue and even things like “man” and “woman”, and the dismantling of societal norms that have served the world for good for centuries. It’s not hard to see that in many ways, some of our most influential institutions (government, academia, entertainment, and medicine) are actively working against us. My guest today, author and cultural commentator, Andrew Klavan joins me to talk about what is happening in society today and what, we as men, can do about it. We discuss extreme feminism and the male equivalent – Red Pill and MGTOW, the difference between happiness, fulfillment, and joy (and which to pursue), why men like Andrew Tate have come to influence millions of men – and why that’s not a good thing, how the powers that be are getting people to turn against each other, and so much more. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS (00:00) - Episode Intro (04:06) - Debating Gender Roles in Society (13:18) - Rejecting Toxic Gender Expectations (23:21) - Navigating Perceptions of Masculinity and Femininity (27:12) - Navigating Personal Morality and Accountability (39:04) - Spiritual Transformation and Interfaith Respect (45:24) - Exploring Gender Dynamics in Fiction (58:00) - Exploring Moral Principles and Atheism (01:07:26) - Personal Reflections on Writing and Connection Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

15 Okt 20241h 14min

Join Ryan Michler as he explores the distinction between masculinity and manliness, a conversation that goes beyond mere semantics. Drawing insights from our social media followers, he discusses how masculinity often encompasses inherent traits like dominance and competitiveness, while manliness is about applying these traits through cultural, moral, and ethical lenses. By sharing various perspectives and definitions, Ryan illustrates that masculinity is a birthright, but manliness must be earned through responsible and positive actions. This conversation encourages a broader discussion on how men can effectively cultivate these attributes to benefit themselves and others. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS (00:00) - Episode Intro (00:40) - Introduction to Masculinity vs. Manliness Discussion (03:24) - Listener Quotes on Masculinity vs. Manliness (04:27) - Defining Masculinity and Manliness (05:28) - Masculinity as Biological Traits (06:38) - Manliness as Earned Characteristics (07:35) - Good Man vs. Good at Being a Man (08:22) - The Importance of the Distinction (09:38) - Masculinity as an Amoral Tool (10:21) - Appropriate vs. Misuse of Aggression (11:47) - Manliness: Applying Masculine Traits for Good (13:14) - Final Thoughts on Masculinity vs. Manliness Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

11 Okt 202414min