257: Overcoming Accidental Accomplice to Fraud | Feedback Friday

How can you still be supportive of the friend you love when they're still trying to work things out with a cheating ex you'd like to strangle? We'll look into this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/403 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How can you still be supportive of the friend you love when they're still trying to work things out with a cheating ex you'd like to strangle? You accidentally eavesdropped on a pair of clients engaging in carnal relations over Zoom when they thought they were signed out. Should you let them know you heard everything or just let it go? How can you dig the well before you're thirsty when all you're hearing is the sound of your network's crickets? As a highly praised female in a male-dominated industry, how can you make it clear you expect to make as much as your male predecessor -- with the title to match -- without coming off as pushy? Working from home during this quarantine has been an incredibly positive and productive experience, but your company is old school and itching to get back to business as usual in the office. What might you do to keep living the quarandream? This LinkedIn "mentorship" contact you got suckered into having a conversation with is definitely a scam, right? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. And if you want to keep in touch with former co-host and JHS family Jason, find him on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

11 Sep 202048min

Cheryl Strayed (@CherylStrayed) co-hosts the Dear Sugars podcast and is the award-winning author of several books, including Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail. What We Discuss with Cheryl Strayed: Why sometimes the only way to do something right is to do some things wrong. Why we give our best advice to others even when we can't follow through with it for ourselves. The value of surrendering to your own mediocrity in order to finish what you've started. How to avoid getting trapped in the need for other people's approval. What Cheryl really means when she says "Don't let your dreams ruin your life." And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/402 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

10 Sep 20201h 8min

Robert Wittman (@robertwittman) is the former senior investigator/creator of the FBI's national art crime team and author of Priceless: How I Went Undercover to Rescue the World's Stolen Treasures. What We Discuss with Robert Wittman: Why criminal and terrorist organizations find art less risky to smuggle than contraband like cash, drugs, or guns. The three things that make an art piece valuable: provenance, authenticity, and good title. Why the US has only relatively recently begun to take art crime seriously, whereas Italy's art crime team has a freaking submarine! Simple but effective tactics for remaining undercover without arousing suspicion from the targets. Why losing his fear instinct was a clear signal for Robert to retire from undercover work for good. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/401 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

8 Sep 20201h 16min

Instead of hounding your neighbor for letting his pooch poop in your yard, you've instituted a pawsive-aggressive campaign of terrier against them. But what's the best way to solve the problem before somebody gets seriously ruffed up? Retriever the answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/400 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Were we off-base with our advice to the person who romantically matched with a mask-refusing COVID-19 denier a couple of weeks back? Your neighbor's in the doghouse and doesn't even know it for letting his convivial canine crap all over your yard. What's the best way to preserve peace between your houses? You were raised to care about others and your community, but it's never made you rich. Should you raise your child to be the kind of person who puts himself first -- even if it sometimes means stepping on others to get ahead? You're working in a system where networking and name recognition are just as important as being good at your job, but you have a plan to move across the country five to 10 years in the future. How would you start building that network now? Happily married for two years with thoughts of having children ahead, you're still trying to agree on a last name to share, even though you're both attached to the ones you already have. What kind of resolution do we suggest? As a methodical consultant, you consistently put in more than your approved billable hours and eat the time as part of doing business with budget-conscious, mid-tier companies. But is there a better way? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. And if you want to keep in touch with former co-host and JHS family Jason, find him on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

4 Sep 202054min

Jennifer L. Eberhardt is a professor of psychology at Stanford University whose research explores race, bias, and inequality; she is the author of Biased: Uncovering the Hidden Prejudice That Shapes What We See, Think, and Do. What We Discuss with Jennifer L. Eberhardt: What's going on in the brain that creates and maintains bias. How bias can alter what we feel and even what we see. How bias is contagious, and why we may have evolved bias in the first place. Why bias doesn’t just hurt the person who is on the receiving end of it. How we can spot bias in ourselves and act to mitigate it. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/399 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

3 Sep 20201h 13min

Danny Trejo (@officialDannyT) is an instantly-recognizable actor, producer, and restauranteur with a resume that includes crime, hard time, and battling his own addictions while helping troubled youth overcome theirs. His latest project is the documentary Inmate #1: The Rise of Danny Trejo. What We Discuss with Danny Trejo: What it was once like for Danny to ponder if he was doing robberies to support his drug habit, or doing drugs to support his robbery habit. How Danny got his act together after spending 10 years in and out of every prison in California. How Danny walked onto a Hollywood movie set as a drug counselor and left as a bona fide actor. Why Danny doesn't do his own stunts. How Danny has maintained sobriety for over 50 years -- and continues to help others maintain theirs. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/398 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

1 Sep 202053min

You've been helping your single mom care for your special needs sister for 19 years, but you're 24 now and need to set out on your own life. How do you cope with the guilt you're feeling for putting your needs first for perhaps the first time, ever? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/397 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: You've been helping your single mom care for your special needs sister for 19 years, but you're 24 now and need to set out on your own life. How do you cope with the guilt you're feeling for putting your needs first for perhaps the first time, ever? As a skillful, reliable contractor who has worked on an as-needed basis with several companies for six years, how do you ask for a raise without making it seem like an ultimatum? Is it possible to maintain friendships with people you've known your whole life but who differ from you not only in matters of opinion and lifestyle choices, but core values? You're at a point in your career where you want to focus on your target market, but you don't want your peers to think you're brushing your rejects off on them. When you're in a small industry where word travels fast, how do you nicely decline to work with someone? You've applied for a job that seems like a great fit, but you're concerned your criminal record might be an issue during the interview in spite of having drastically turned your life around. Should you bring it up first, and if so, how? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

28 Aug 202043min

Before passing away earlier this year, Dr. Anders Ericsson was the cognitive psychologist who discovered that deliberate practice, not natural talent, is the key to developing expertise. He was the co-author of Peak: Secrets From The New Science Of Expertise. What We Discuss with Dr. Anders Ericsson: Why innate talent is a myth. How to set up a deliberate practice regimen to become more effective at anything you do. The truth about the 10,000-hour rule to mastery popularized by Malcolm Gladwell. Why “try differently” is a better recipe for success than “try harder.” Contrary to what was once believed, the brain can be rewired to excel toward a specific goal at any age with the proper training. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/396 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

27 Aug 202053min